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writes: Hi. I have a problem, me and my girlfriend are both 18 and it's long-term (I'm a virgin, she's not). As I never really watched pornography or anything like that when I was younger, I'm really unaware of how to pleasure a woman. I've learnt to play with her clitorus but when trying to enter the vagina I have a problem. I know I'm not aiming in the wrong area but maybe I should be asking her to guide me in? Maybe I haven't turned her on enough to make her wet enough to allow me to get in?Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): USE UR TOUNGE!!!! Trust me girls luv this. I should know, I am one. Pretend her clit is a sucker & just keep stabbing at it w/ ur tounge. While u r doing that, finger her at the same time. Keep doing this until she's begging you to stop cuz it feels so good she can't stand it. When she starts begging you to stop do it faster. She's about to cum!! Problem solved:she's wet & ready. Just lay back & let her get on top & ride!!
Just don't rush it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2005): Don't worry. I had no idea what i was doing the first time. You know more than i did when i first did it if you know about the clitorus. Don't worry. It cums naturaly, no pun intended.
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reader, Dolomite +, writes (4 October 2005):
Here are some tips for you:
1. Relax - nobody get's it right the first time.
2. Forplay - lot's of it - it's half the fun!
3. Definitely have her help you in - sex is a two person job!
4. Use a lubricated condom, and don't be afraid to add a little extra lubication (Non-Petroleum based!) - this will give you a little extra margin for error.
5. take your time - it's not a race, and the longer you take, the more relaxed you will be.
6. Finally, have fun!
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reader, GISELA +, writes (4 October 2005):
I think that you should talk to her openly and ask her what she likes. Don't worry about getting her wet because you can use special lubricants and the more you communicate with her about sex the more confident you'll become and she will be more excited.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (4 October 2005):
well just playing with her clit will not get her wet enough or may be it will in your case it doesnt work,have you ever tryed kissing the clit then licking it, that bound to get her wet, or try working from top kissing neck,ears then breast then down to her clit how ever if that does still not get her wet enough you should ask if you can use some k.y jelly which you can buy from pharmasist, when wet its not really that hard to aim when you have an hard on hold bottom of your penise while going to aim in if you can not find it with the head of your penise then insert a finger up her virginia untill you place your head of your penise exactly where your finger is then insert your penise and remove your finger quick. the problem may be your not hard enough make sure you are rock hard! if still doesnt help then ask her to guide you in its not an embarrising question my man use to ask me to guide him in after a while he was able to do it his own! what ever you do movement you make on her ask for her permission first.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (4 October 2005):
Well, this is a very common problem, without me advertising places, i think watching porn is the best way besides actually "doing it" to learn how its properly done, obviously, watching porn is #1 and doing it is #2 if you are a virgin. YOU SHOULD WATCH PORN, YOU WONT REGRET IT
I dont know if im allowed to explain in detail about this?
Now forget about actual penetration, many women cant get an orgasm from sexual intercourse alone, there are a few ways to help with this like foreplay. Women take longer to warm up then men. What i have read from this site most agree that 30 mins foreplay normally does the trick ;)
* Power of the mind: you will be suprised how good this can be, simply eating fruits or licking chocolate etc. off your partners body can do wonders for the mind.
Now imagine this situation, there are two men, both equally good at sex the other (OK, not in real life), then there is one woman, this woman loves man #1 but not man #2, For which bloke is she more likely to reach orgasm?
- Man #1?
- Man #2?
- Both, they are equal you idiot!?
Answer: Man #1
* Masturbation and Mutual Masturbation: Most women can get an orgasm from this, and most get very wet. Mutual Masturbation is the same as masturbation but is not done by the same person but by his/her partner.
* Oral Sex: "I've learnt to play with her clitorus " - im not sure if you mean by oral and/or with your hands, some men love using their tongues while others wont, you should try this if you havn't already done so
I would also recommend you searching the web for guides and articles
Hope this helps!
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