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writes: Hey im 18 and have been with this guy 4 about 4 months i love him alot but i still take other guys phone numbers and find it hard not to flirt with them, i have a problem with leading people on but i dont want to loose my bf because of it what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): Ask yourself do you love your boyfriend? Is he faithful to you? If the answer is yes to both these questions, consider the following. There is nothing wrong with flirting. However it is wrong to lead people on and it is direspectful to your boyfriend and yourself if you take it too far. You might need a boost in your self esteeem and need to do things that will achieve this. Take up a sport or fitness regime and feel good about yourself, you will not need someone else to make you feel good then. Look at all the qualities that you love about your boyfriend and when someone is chatting you up remind yourself of these. Above all remember that flirting is ok, but know when to stop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing the same thing to you behind your back? You are very young and obviously have a lot of time yet to explore more and different relationships. I would suggest that you be honest with your boyfriend about your urge to flirt. Communicating your feelings with your mate may help you decide what you really want from your current relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2005): Please get counseling it sounds like you've had a troubled past. You should really respect yourself and love yourself and don't put yourself out there like someone who can't control themself. I'm not trying to be harsh, but honest. Watch who you get involved with, hopefully you won't get hurt physically or infected. Good Luck
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reader, missdee +, writes (2 October 2005):
Hey I got a question for you. This guy has been seeing this girl for 4 months. He says he loves his g/f but he still takes other girls numbers and finds it hard not to flirt with other girls. He knows that he is leading the girls on, but can't stop even knowing he could lose his g/f. What should he do?
If you can answer this you are able to put yourself in someone else's shoes. By doing that you are able to see how that person will feel by your actions.
Just to be straight. Your boyfriend will most likely find out what you are doing. There will be a lot of hurt feelings. The trust will be gone forever....
On the other hand if you feel you are to young or just don't want to settle down right now (tell him). Tell him you care alot about him and want to remain friends (and possibly go out sometimes) as friends but he can see other people and so can you. If it was meant to be you two will find your way back to one another later on in life, (it makes it alot easier if that doorway to friendship is open)
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (2 October 2005):
its easy really you just love attention when ever you meet a feller and feel like takeing his number or flirting get in contact with your partner listen to his voice then think wow ive got to slow down i do not want to lose this man, or try leaveing the place where the man is whos number you want to take and go to a different place! or easy enough just turn round&say to them look i have a boyfriend sorry im not intrested! or make sure for a while you hang around with girls only just untill you get use to the fact of not flirting there you go i gave you 4 advices i only hope 1 or all of them work good luck! AND YOU MUST BE CAREFULL WITH TURNING GUYS ON BECAUSE IT MAY TURN TO SEXUALL ABOUSE WHICH IS WHY I GAVE YOU 4 OPTIONS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2005): Be careful, girl-you love the attentions of other guys, no matter what and at any cost. I am wondering...are you truely read for an "exclusive" relationship? Think long and hard on that because, flirting is to initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex. I would suggest you put the "brakes on" when tempted to flirt with other guys. That's not only disrespectful to your bf, but it will say to your bf, you are untrustworthy and you will lose him, eventually. Many people in long-term relationships can cope with a "little bit" of admiration, and may even benefit from knowing that others find their partners attractive, but you are taking it too far and it will come back and burn you. If you truely care for this guy, you would not be doing this. Being really committed to someone means you don’t flirt with others, in any way, shape or form!
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