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writes:I've lost practically all my friends because of the relationship I'm in. I feel completely inadequate to everyone else in my life. I'm frustrated because my biological father doesn't give a flying crap that I'm alive. I've lost the spark in my relationship, and I have horrible grades that I feel will never improve. I don't know what to do with myself, lately I've just been feeling so sad and run down by life and I can't seem to fix it. I was just wondering if anyone had some encouraging advice.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 December 2008):
Your dad may be rubbish, but unfortunately not all children come from people who want to love and cherish them.
Accept that he's a dud and stop trying. It's his loss if he misses out on your life.
As for the boyfriend / friends thing... did you lose your friends because they disapproved of him or did you just lose them because you spend every second with your boyfriend and you drifted apart?
I think the answer in both cases is to make some calls to your friends and ask to meet up with them for lunch or something. Go and hang out with them for a while. Take a bit of time away from your boyfriend and have some fun. You may realise you miss him and that you've just got stuck in a rut, or you may realise that you are happier apart so you know that it's time to move on and set each other free.
As for your grades, can you speak to a teacher and tell them about all the crap that is going on? Ask them for feedback on what has been getting you bad grades and also try and borrow some essays from classmates that got good grades. Have a read of their old work and see what they said that you didn't so next time you know what to look for and think about.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): I know how you feel - kinda like a downward spiral isn't it? - with lots of spikes Obvious? - don't get on your dad's nerves like.... try to keep on his cool side, not saying he's in the right but tbh, he's gonna be a major decider to if you're happy or not. Hang in there :)Losing your friends? - I've been through that too.. it's so upsetting with nobody to rely on. People told me to make new friends but I found that the strongest connection was with the people that I had been friends with previously. Maybe you and them can make up again? (difficult and embarrasing but hell... they were your friends. You can't just lose them like that).As for "Lost the spark in my relationship", I don't know how well you get on with your bf but perhaps you could surprise him? nothing sexual but try being around him more often and hugging him maybe? Guys DO like that you know :PI've suffered from depression before. It sucks. You have to move on with your life though, perhaps you could do a google search for "inspiring songs" if that's what gets you going and in a good mood. Don't anybody get you down, life is waaaaay too short to worry about people who aren't worth your time.As for your grades.. just try. REALLY try and pull them upgood luck :)
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