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writes:I'm a guy in my early 30's and I've been with my boy friend for over 2 years, he is quite younger than me (24)I love him very much, I care for him and push him in his studies so all going well.The only thing is before meeting him I had a very active sex life, unlike some, I do not see casual sex as being pointless and sad, quite the opposite, with the right guy it can be very enjoyable and fulfilling, but my bf doesn't see it that way, he hated it when he was single and doesn't want to hear about an open relationship. I think it's down to his young age as I grew to enjoy sex a lot more as years went by.I have to admit to missing sleeping with other men a lot, and I feel that it was easier for him to give it up since he hated it.I cannot even approach the subject with him which is such a shame as I know so many gay couples who keep things open especially after 2 years together, and the great thing about being 2 guys together usually is the level of honesty you get about sex.I[m stuck in a dilemna as I don't want to leave him over it, but at the same time I feel like I'm missing a big part of my life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): Aren't you concerned about AIDS or giving it to your partner? Multiple sex partners/strangers can be a death sentence...I really don't think our bodies were created for this. You like sex, this is natural, but what you're doing is not.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 December 2008):
I think you are right that he is a bit young and so he probably wants to be in love with you and be committed to one person.
It's sad but if you aren't willing to give him what he wants in love then you are doing him a favour by setting him free to find someone better suited.
Talk to him about it, even if he gets upset, and you can always stay mates hopefully and you can set him up with anyone you meet down the line who is looking for a 1 man relationship.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 You can bring this up to him, but understand that the suggestion is probably going to hurt him, and you may even lose him if he considers commitment a high priority (which is a completely reasonable attitude for him to have, by the way). If being in an open relationship is worth that to you then go for it but be prepared for it to cause trouble between you and him. And please, please, please use protection if you start having casual sex again...you owe it to yourself and your partner. Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): i suppose you could try sitting down with him and talking to him calmly about it and tell him how you feel. but you cant talk someone into something if they dont want it and/or feel comfortable with it.
now i'm only 16 and dont know much about sexual relationships etc, but its important that you both talk about it and come up with a solution that you're both happy with.
if you really love him that much then maybe you should think about whether you love him enough to give up that part of your life.
either way i'm sure you both can work it out.
i hope this helps at least a little.
good luck xx
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