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writes: My boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me. I say no because I dont think im mature enough for marriage and we're both 19. Dont get me wrong I do love him but and 19 seems insanely young for that kind of commitment. I think might destroy him cause now he's gets mad at me for almost every little mistake I do. Was that cald hearted of me to tell him no? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 December 2008):
He's obviously hurt and angry with you and is taking it out on you in a fairly immature way.
Explain to him that just because you said no doesn't mean you'll say no for ever. Tell him that you just don't want to get engaged before the age of 21 / 25 / 50 / whenever.
Tell him that you want him to forgive you because you weren't rejecting him, just marriage.
Be extra nice to him though as asking a girl that is really putting yourself out there and you really shot him down. His pride is going to be pretty dented and he's going to feel extra rejected.
Talk to him about it and then be an extra great girlfriend over the next few weeks so he knows how much you love him.
If he's still being an idiot and treating you badly then tell him that you want to know how long he's going to punish you for and that he will end up driving you away if he continues with this.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ReachForTheSky  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 No, it was smart! Explain your position to him, and that while you DO love him and probably want to marry him, you just don't want to be married to ANYONE at 19. His getting upset over every mistake you make is a sign of his immaturity. No matter what he does, stick to your principles! Hope it all works out for the best.
-Reach for the sky
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