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writes:I've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years now. I'm 16 and he is 19. We've known each other since we were really young, and we were best friends before we got together.The problem is his mother. I've never really felt like she's liked me, or accept me for who I am, I suppose I think she sees me as a bit of a 'snob' because she always moans about how much money I spend on my boyfriends niece and nephew for their birthdays and christmas.Aswell as this, she makes horrible comments towards my boyfriend in front of me that really embaress me, such as 'your hairs greasy go get it washed' or 'your breath smells horrible go sort it.' This makes me feel really uncomfortable, and I feel like I want to defend him because when she says these things, there's nothing wrong with him. She moaned when he started working part-time whilst he was in college because she was losing out on her benefits, which in my eyes is really selfish because at least her son was trying to better himself.My question is, is it good to defend him when he's treated like this? Considering that I don't think she likes me. The way I see her behaviour is abusive and mean. Although some may say that's what parents are like. She's 60, which may be the reason for her attitude towards him with people saying she's a 'tradional parent.' But I didn't think traditional parents acted like that.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 December 2008):
I don't think starting a massive row with his mother is a good way to help this situation.
I think what you need to do is just support your boyfriend.
As soon as she's gone just tell him she's talking crap and he shouldn't let her make him feel bad.
Help him to work really hard at college and then you can both go off to uni. Uni is the best and easiest way to leave home and he can get a much better job with it if he picks a good subject. Find a course that has a good job at the end of it and go for it. She won't have control over him much longer which is probably why she's trying to beat him down at the moment.
Good Luck!! xx
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