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writes:Hi. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 20. We haven't been together very long (6 months) but we are very much in love. We decided that I would stop taking the contraceptive pill to try and get pregnant. We are both sure that this is what we want, i have absolutely no doubts about our relationship, wanting a baby, being a good mom or anything like that... i had a 4 year relationship before and im not immature or anything, i know people may think we have rushed into this, but believe me it was thought out.The thing is I'm abit worried about how his family will react. His mom is lovely but she overreacts about everything, and is very over protective. I think i may be pregnant.. im not sure as its a few days too early to do a test but im having alot of the signs that iv never experienced before. I dont want to disappoint her, and i dont want her to be angry at me either, she thinks the sun shines out of her sons wotsits :P How do we go about talking to her about it if i am indeed pregnant? If I am pregnant it will make me the happiest woman alive, but I'm scared her reaction will cast a huge shadow over our happy news.thanks for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk firstly thanks for your input. Its useful to have a mothers point of view. But i have to strongly disagree whith a large majority of what you have just said. I can agree that she would want the best for him and shes put alot of effort into raising him and being a good mom to give him the best start.
But you dont know me personally or him for that matter. Im just finishing my degree, im not some 20 year old who wants to get knocked up ok. He is also doing his degree and is on his way to a very respectable well paid job. Having a baby changes your life alot i understand this, but it wont stop him persuing his career, if anything it would motivate him more to do well. I also have career ambitions, it is not my only goal in life to get 'knocked up'. But having children with the man i love is a great thing i want to achieve yes.
I do agree that it seems abit hasty. But i do know that he is the man i want to be with for the rest of my life. Iv had long term realtionships and all other kinds before. And I know that this one is different. Im really not immature. Iv been supporting my self finacially, emotionally and everything else since i was 17, so 4 years now. I come from a big family and have raised a child from practically birth as my mother herself wasnt interested... so i know all about being a mother. It takes love and dedication to raise a child thats not even your own at the age of 13! So while i respect you view, and i thankyou, i cant agree with most of it.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 December 2008):
Why not tell her you are trying for a baby, then you can deal with her hysterics early on and then in a few weeks once you are sure you can tell her and she won't react so mentally.
Good Luck!! xx
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