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writes:Hi I am a Christian but my Atheist girlfriend refuses to celebrate Christmas, what gives? No one else seems to have a problem, why does she have to be so awkward?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): I am with Fade here.you cannot force anyone to do anything.That doesn't help the relationship in anyway.
We are all human beings.We have every right to make our own choices.
As a christian if you have a problem with her beliefs shouldn't you have selected a girl who thinks like you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): To say Jesus did not exist is refuting history. Then that person would believe all the kings, descendants of the bible (which many have been proven with ancient scrolls/artifacts) did not exist. (Pharoh, King Herod...) My point is she's rejected the bible, and would inevitably reject Christmas. I'm surprised you are together...most of the time these relationships are very difficult to sustain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): I will agree with Miss.Emilysanswers. A person who believes in a god may not want to offend that god. But a person who doesnt believe god exists can still celebrate a religious festival becoz he/she is not offending anyone. She is just being extreme and stupid. If you wanted her to celebrate Hitler's birthday and she refused it I would understand her. But what to do? You cant force her. She is just missing out fun. It is her loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): She's not awkward, these are her views and they are as important to her as your Jesus Christ is. She refuses to celebrate "Christ Mass", because she doesn't believe that such a person existed, and even if he did, he is not worthy of celebration.
Your unfair if you feel that you can be a Christian and hold Christian views, but refuse to allow her to hold her own views that are as important as yours. It's your festival not hers. Respect her opinions and go and do what you normally do, with others who believe like you do.
She's an atheist, (a strict) atheist, why should she wish to celebrate? If she was Jewish would you be asking the same thing? Tolerance should work both ways.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 December 2008):
She's not just an atheist, she's an extremist atheist.
Ask her if she'll celebrate winter solstice instead?
It's just like all those people who said that it was pointless going out on 31st December 1999 because the real millennium was 31st Dec 2000. They may have been right but they missed a great party.
If she wants to be miserable and sit at home then let her. Go and have a great Christmas without her and next year she may be a little bit more accepting of the fact that Christmas is fun, even if you don't believe that it's Jesus's official birthday.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Yes your atheist gf is actually practicing what she preaches unlike many other so called atheists that celebrate the Christian festival. It shows a strength of character that she sticks to her beliefs.
Maybe you should find a Christian gf.
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reader, simply_singular  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 You answered your question yourself. She isn't awkward, it's just her belief and you are the one having the issue with it. Perhaps you should talk to her and explain how you feel, if it's still an issue with you then maybe you should think about your relationship and if you really want it.
Good luck
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