Sex and your virginity.
Q. Hello, I want to ask... that if a women has a sexual relationship for the first time and she does not bleed, does that means that she WASN'T a virgin to begin with???...
A. 15 January 2009: If she doesn't bleed then she has done one of the following:
ridden a bike, ridden a horse, used tampons, done running or gymnastics, taken a fall, masturbated or had sex.
Women were only "gauranteed" to bleed back in the day because they spe... (read in full...)
She panicked and ran away when she saw me!
Q. So after months of being ignored and no contact from a girl that claimed was "in love" with me, I ran into her on the bus on my way back from work. When she saw me she turned around as if she didn't see me. I approached and called her name very ...
A. 15 January 2009: She was being a stupid and love struck girl. She freaked out.
She panicked and ran because she was overwhelmed with feelings when seeing you.
Perhaps her boyfriend found out about her feelings and said she could never speak to you again so tha... (read in full...)
How can I get what I want even though I'm clueless and guys don't have the you know what to come and talk to me themselves?
Q. I don't get it. All my friends say that guys are always staring at me and that some say I'm pretty and what not. Yet, I'm single. Not that I'm desperate to have a boyfriend but it comes to the point that you envy those who have the relationship you ...
A. 14 January 2009: They may be staring at you but how do you make yourself approachable?
Girls tend to move in groups so it's very hard for a guy to get you alone to ask you out without all your mates spying and giggling round the corner.
If there is someone... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to drop some weight.
Q. I'm 20 my girl is 18. I'm feeling like I'm starting to fall for her but she is starting to get on the overweight side. I still feel attracted to her but I want her to be healthy. I have told her that I love her how she is but the weight is starting ...
A. 14 January 2009: The key is not to tell her but to act on it yourself.
Take her for long romantic walks, or ask her if she'll coming running with you because you want to take her on holiday this summer and thought you could get bikini fit together.
That la... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he popped the questions
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for about 21/2 years. He talks about our future alot, but he has never popped the question! what is the hold up? Should I ask where our relationship is going?...
A. 14 January 2009: Have you tried stopping on front of wedding dress shops and pointing out suits that he'd look great in, or asking his taste in dresses?
If that doesn't work then another good one is to spot a ring in a jewellers and point it out "Oh but it's an ... (read in full...)
Parental dilemma!
Q. I have a parental dilemma about, using information, about "bad signs through facebook." I have access to my daughter's account, and I see alarming conversations. About drinking sex, and many very inappropriate behaviour, I don't ever hear from ...
A. 14 January 2009: I think you just have to tell her that you know something is going on with her and you want her to be able to talk to you about any worries she has or problems.
Just tell her that you've noticed she's changed and you trust her completely but want... (read in full...)
What constitutes a stalker?
Q. What qualifies someone as a stalker? Is it considered stalking if the person in question continues to try to contact you, even after you have left the country to avoid them?...
A. 14 January 2009: I depends on the country you live in and they live in and local laws.
But if they are still not leaving you alone after you have told them to go away then they could be accused of stalking. Unless they are chasing you for some relavant thing li... (read in full...)
When people have relationships in their 20's do they last?
Q. i saw my cousin over the weekend (he's 24 or 26 or something) and his girlfriend is about the same age. she's a tad annoying, but nice, and he seems to like her. anyway, when people in their 20s form relationships do they usually last? any advice...
A. 14 January 2009: You are asking here if every person in a ten year period only has one boyfriend / girlfriend.
The obvious answer is no.
Dating in your 20's can lead to marriage, but it can equally only last a day or a week or a month.
If you don't like her... (read in full...)
Husband on deployment for 6 months...will this make us stronger or hurt us?
Q. Hello everyone. My husband is in the military and is out on deployment for 6 months. This is our first time as a couple with him going away like this, long ago we were just friends. I'm going out of my mind I miss him so much. My question is has ...
A. 13 January 2009: Wow you got as far as being married before he got deployed? That's pretty lucky!
Well mu husband is in the British Army as a medic. While we've been together he's done two 6 month deployments to Iraq and 3 months in Kosovo.
This 6 months... (read in full...)
We got close dancing but nothing happened, now my boyfriend won't speak with me. How can I fix this?
Q. i'm currently in a two year relationship, where i've know my boyfriend for 3 years. we have had many ups and downs in our relationship for its duration, where i mostly was the one at fault. currently i celebrated a birthday and he didn't spend it ...
A. 13 January 2009: If the relationship does not make you happy, and he doesn't sound happy either to me, then it may be better if you were single.
You can figure out what you want from life and find someone who can make you happy.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What does his answer mean?
Q. I have a pen-pal who's military and well I email him often like 2 or 3 times a month, sometimes a week or whenever. He says it's great to hear from me always. B/c he's military he gets duty assignments and even then he send me notes telling ...
A. 12 January 2009: I honestly think this guy just sees you as a friend. Take care of your self is a standard ending to any conversation with anyone and I really think you need to stop reading into it so much.
I think if he was interested in the way you want him to b... (read in full...)
She might be pregnant but wants to wait 9 months!
Q. ok me and a freind got together one day in ended up messng around and she straddled me i never ejaculated in her but something aint feel right so next day i told her take a pregnancy test she said no n im not gonna she thinks im making up excuses n ...
A. 11 January 2009: If you were worried about pregnancy then you should have got her the morning after pill.
For now you will just have to wait and see what happens.
She is not being very nice by messing you about like this.
If she is not pregnant then I advi... (read in full...)
I love him I know he doesn't love me back
Q. I am oh so deeply in love, but he doesn't love me back. He's the only one I'll ever love and I'm sure of it. What exactly should I do???...
A. 11 January 2009: You can try to get over him but it doesn't sound like you want to.
If not you can suffer and flop about in self pity for a bit longer.
Your choice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Slept together and now haven't heard a thing?
Q. I was out with friends a few weeks ago and i got chatting to the doorman of the bar we were in, we kissed at the end of the night and he gave me his number.we met up a few times after that, we went out last friday night and ended up sleeping ...
A. 11 January 2009: I think you should hope for the best but expect the worsed from this situation.
He was a gentleman about it but it appears he only wanted a one night thing.
All I can advise is to go out for more than a week before sleeping with a guy you w... (read in full...)
Toning up lower abs
Q. what is the best way to tone up the lowers abs? ...
A. 11 January 2009: Get and exercise ball and do sit ups while on it and use it to maintain good posture.
Use it as your chair and you will use all those muscles to keep your balance so that will help.
If you can't do that then sit up and twisting sit ups will als... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls who go horseriding?
Q. do guys like girls who do horseriding or they think girls who horserifing are posh and snobby...
A. 11 January 2009: Some guys will think it's snobby, some will think it's really cool.
As long as the girl doesn't go on and on and on about it as some horsey girls are prone to do, then she should be fine.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What happens if she's pregnant and the parents go to the police?
Q. hey thankyou for your help in advance, this is rather urgent my best friend who is 17 may have got his 15yr old girlfriend pregnant ((they were using protection and condom didnt split ...)) as she is late on her period they both want an abortion...
A. 11 January 2009: Considering the age difference it would depend on the circumstances, and the parent's reaction.
If they want to press charges then he may be put on the sex offenders register.
I doubt he would go to prison as there is no danger to the girl or t... (read in full...)
Where do I find the place to ask her out?
Q. I have been keen on this woman for about 2 years now but it is steadily rising every time we meet. We are both 18 atm and went to the same High School and work at the same place (got her the job myself). So basically where I stand, she went ...
A. 11 January 2009: You don't need to make it special and work your way up to it. You are not proposing marriage here.
You have her number so call her right now and ask her if she wanted to go for dinner at some point this week. You are not a little kid any more. As... (read in full...)
My biggest fear is having to split up with my girlfriend as I know it would break her heart...
Q. I've been with my current gf for five years. Things are okay, but they're not great. We argue quite a lot, generally nothing major, just constant bickering about me leaving the toilet seat up, she squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, etc. ...
A. 11 January 2009: I know you don't want to break your girlfriend's heart but are you content to use her till something better comes along?
If you would leave her for this girl then you have to admit you don't want to be with her and split up with her.
Yes it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend extremely needy and doesn't trust me
Q. hi, okay i've spoken to some people about this already, but they are no help and their answers are biased. me and my boyfriend have been together for only 3 months and he's already saying he loves me more than anything and that if i wasn't his he ...
A. 11 January 2009: You can just end it.
Tell him it's over and then cut contact with him.
This guy sounds like he is obsessed with you and telling you that you are a cheat, so you have to go out of you way to reassure him and show him how you love him is just... (read in full...)
Could this be a sign?
Q. Hi everyone please help me out. I've been dating this guy for two months now, and he constantly keeps joking around about wanting to sleep with my aunt and he constantly keeps saying how sexy she is, when he does it and notices that I'm upset, he ...
A. 11 January 2009: I think it's a sign that he likes messing with you.
He enjoys getting you angry and messing with your emotions, and I think this is a way to control you. It's basically a tiny emotional slap in the face.
To me this is a big red warning flag tha... (read in full...)
Got back together with ex, realize I don't love him--now what?
Q. I've known my boyfriend a long time. We dated before, it didn't work out, we didn't see each other for a couple of years. We ended up back in touch and he was very keen for us to try again at a relationship. I was happy single, I wasn't sure ...
A. 11 January 2009: Jesus, he really does sound like he's use any kind of manipulation on you to keep you. He's desperate so be prepared for him to say anything including hurtful things to try and get you to stay.
My first boyfriend started talking about suicide ... (read in full...)
Am I sell out because I like white men?
Q. Well for the past 10 years now since I was 14 yrs old, I add an attraction to White guys. Something about them turns me on so bad. I can count on one hand and 1/2 of all the Black and Latino men that I've dated. My friends and family think I'm...
A. 11 January 2009: As far as I was aware being a "sell out" meant that you took the money at the expense of your morals.
You happen to like men that look a certain way.
The fact that your friend has a problem with it says more about her than anything. Tell h... (read in full...)
Got back together with ex, realize I don't love him--now what?
Q. I've known my boyfriend a long time. We dated before, it didn't work out, we didn't see each other for a couple of years. We ended up back in touch and he was very keen for us to try again at a relationship. I was happy single, I wasn't sure ...
A. 11 January 2009: I know you feel guilty and yes you are right because I think you knew he would get like this, but HE convinced you he would take care of his own feelings.
You are not soley to blame for this.
It's going to be horrible breaking up with him but ... (read in full...)
If a guy says he's too busy to talk or get together, does it really mean he doesn't care?
Q. If a guy says he's too busy to talk or get together, does it really mean he doesn't care?...
A. 11 January 2009: You don't give enough information for us to work it out.
It could be that he just doesn't have time at the moment.
It could be he's avoiding you.
It's your decision about how long you hang around waiting for him before you move on.
G... (read in full...)
He doesn't talk to me and says "I don't feel like it"
Q. Starting out, my bf's name will be "George." So, George asks me out and I'm all happy because I've liked him for maybe... a year and a half. And then we go on winter break and don't see each other until New Year's Eve, when we have a really nice ...
A. 11 January 2009: Hun I'm sorry to say that I think he already has split up with you.
He's just too much of a wimp to say it to your face.
My advice is to assume you are over and ask some other boy out. If George complains then just say that since he hasn't ... (read in full...)
My friends always copy me
Q. I have two best friends that I like to copy me. They copy my hair, my clothes everything I do. If I buy something they buy but in a different colour .They even died they'll hair my hair colour. At first I didn't mind , I actually thought it was ...
A. 11 January 2009: Say about how you REALLY love these shoes and point out the most hideous pair you can find.
Buy them (but keep the receipt so you can take them back the next day) and then when they do just start laughing that they bought really ugly shoes an... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Is he playing games?
Q. I feel so confused. Sorry this is so long! About 3 and half weeks ago the guy i was seeing (not 'officially') said that he still smiles at my photos, and that it would "be nice" to get a massage from me. We were only seeing each other casu...
A. 11 January 2009: This is like your 5th question about this guy.
Seriously, he's OBVIOUSLY just flirting and looking for fun where as you want him to love you and be your boyfriend.
For your own sake, just back off him, or you'll get hurt.
He is not going... (read in full...)
Do most guys answer the door 1/2 naked?
Q. Hello everyone! :) I have a very quick question to ask y'all: Is it normal for guys to answer the door topless? I recently had an experience where a guy I had only met once before opened the door to me with no top on. I was a little taken aback...
A. 11 January 2009: Sounds pretty normal to me.
If he's a guy who's just hanging out then why dash about getting dressed just to answer the door to probably the post man?
I answer the door in my pyjamas sometimes simply because I'm not that bothered about p... (read in full...)
Would you care if they were ill?
Q. If someone you were seeing - not offically, but were hanging out and being intimate - and you did hurt them by not being honest and you are aware of it...because of that you agreed to be friends..and you throw in "friends for now/not ruling i...
A. 11 January 2009: It sounds like a mental illness and since I had previously hurt them and messed them about, I might conclude that the best thing to do would be to back off until they got themselves fixed.
I'm not exactly helping the situation by hanging around a... (read in full...)
How do we tell my brother his LDR won't work?
Q. Hi everyone This is about my brother really, he split with his gf 3 months ago,all my family like her and i think he and she are still sleeping together, and speak everyday, anyway hes meet this girl on the internet, and she lives out of this cou...
A. 11 January 2009: I really don't think you need to worry about your brother getting hurt.
He's using his ex girlfriend for sex and he's cheating on his internet girlfriend.
Point out that he's being an arsehole and it's not cool.
If he doesn't want his ex t... (read in full...)
My b/f never has time for me!
Q. My boyfriend is never home. Whenever he is he is catching on sleep, playing video games, or gathering things so he can go back out again. He says he's either helping friends do stuff to their cars of he's hanging out with friends? But like every ...
A. 11 January 2009: He's doing the minimum he can to keep you sweet which means grudgingly spending time with you when actually threaten to walk out.
Why is he doing so little? Because that's all he needs to do. You keep forgiving him.
If you actually left hi... (read in full...)
Do you think I am awkward?
Q. I have a problem most of the days people don't tell me I am awkward but I have the feeling I am. What do you think?? I am 14 years old and I always laugh at anything even though it isn't funny and people just look at me like I need medication ...
A. 10 January 2009: You are different to everyone else.
This happens to everyone in their teen years. They stop acting like kids and running round doing what everyone else is doing and then you become your own person.
Some people are a bit outgoing and som... (read in full...)
Where can I meet some curvy latinas on the internet?
Q. Where can I meet some curvy latinas on the internet? =P...
A. 10 January 2009: Put curvy latina dating into google.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Facebook question.
Q. HI:) My boyfriend and I are friends on facebook. When I look at his profile it says that he has been tagged in 17 pictures but when I click to see them I am only able to see 11. Has he prevented me somehow from seeing the rest? how and why? He ...
A. 10 January 2009: The person who put the picture up has the option to decide who can see it. This is so random people can't perv on pictures of you if you put them up on facebook.
Whoever put them up probably put that only his/her friends are allowed to look at ... (read in full...)
Should I pay off the $1500 she is after?
Q. About a month ago my long term partner of two years told me she "loved me but was not in love with me" and called the whole thing off. This was the day after thanksgiving where we had been planning next years christmas trip and also firming up ...
A. 10 January 2009: I think if you agreed to pay for it at the time then you should pay for it. However you said you'd do it "together." So she should pay for half and you should pay for half.
If you want to be safe then take her to small claims court and get a le... (read in full...)
Help finding a non traditional engagement ring
Q. Hi, and thanks in advance for any help. I recently have been discussing marriage with my girlfriend of a year. After talking about it with her and finding out that she has been thinking about it also and has the same feelings about it that I ...
A. 10 January 2009: Well since you have already proposed it's not exactly going to be a huge suprise so why not get her help on finding it.
When I suspected my husband was going to propose I would stop infront of jewellers and say "that's nice, so is that, that is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends mad that I didn't do anything for our "monthsary".
Q. My girlfriend was upset with me because I didn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary (monthsary is a different month but same day we became official). She also doesn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary, so I don't ...
A. 9 January 2009: Buy her some flowers for your 6 week anniversary.
But ask her before then she she didn't get you anything either.
It could be she's one of those girls who expects gifts and presents but never gives anything back.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's roommate proposed to me!
Q. Hi. I have a guy (Mr. Lover) that I am seeing and he is a nice guy but i know that this thing we have between us wont go anywhere and he has asked me to marry his brother to help get status in this country so i believe that that is the reason he ...
A. 9 January 2009: Hun they are both using you because they see you are vulnerable.
You were daft enough to carry on hanging out with lover when you knew he was no good. So now Roomie has discovered that all it takes to get what he wants is a couple of nice words.
... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my wife chatting up other men online?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 10 years of which we have been married for 5. We were each others first and have never been with anyone else. I just recently found out that my wife has been chatting online with other men, then she took it one ...
A. 9 January 2009: This is not you over-reacting.
Chatting online is fine, flirting a little bit is fine. Texting one guy constantly and lying about it is not fine.
I disagree that you should "put your foot down" but I think you need to sit her down, tell her y... (read in full...)
Can I really be with someone that I can't rely on?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up after a very happy 2 years together. We split up because I felt I couldn't rely on him and after 2 months of being apart he wants to get back together. Splitting up with him was a very hard thing to do but I felt I had ...
A. 9 January 2009: So you said you couldn't rely on him enough to commit, and his solution is to ask for more commitment without solving any of the problems first?
Riiiiiiiiiiiight.
If you want him back tell him that he cannot move in with you, you will NOT try... (read in full...)
We got close dancing but nothing happened, now my boyfriend won't speak with me. How can I fix this?
Q. i'm currently in a two year relationship, where i've know my boyfriend for 3 years. we have had many ups and downs in our relationship for its duration, where i mostly was the one at fault. currently i celebrated a birthday and he didn't spend it ...
A. 19 October 2008: You have to give him time to calm down. At the moment he is angry so all your calls and texts will just make him think you have a guilty conscience.
Let him calm down and he will be back in touch.
I am sure you explained it was just a dance and... (read in full...)
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