Our first year anniversary and she went back to work! I'm so angry at this.
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and I just had our first year anniversary, before that she was in Japan for three weeks and I had to make the plans for our first year which I did even though I had exams on. 2 days before our first year she got a call to come into ...
A. 1 February 2009: Did she know that you had things planned?
If she didn't think it was anything more than a meal in the evening then going to work for the extra cash might have just made sense.
You don't say what happened when you talked about it. You just hav... (read in full...)
Submissive and wants my permission to masturbate!
Q. I met this guy online, cute, successful, seemed absolutely normal. We have seen each other twice each time for 24 hours straight and have talked on the phone for probably the past month. Extremely physically attracted to each other as well. Have ...
A. 31 January 2009: I don't think you get what he meant by "fun" and "submissive."
He wants to have fun and his idea of fun is being submissive.
By being YOUR submissive he wants to give full control of himself to YOU.
Therefore he wants you to control wha... (read in full...)
Infections in having anal sex???
Q. Today I lost my anal virginity to my boyfriend of 7 months but what I didn't actually know [until today] was that you can't use the same condom/finger/whatever in the anus and vagina.. Is there a chance I could get some sort of infection??? and if ...
A. 31 January 2009: Yes you can, the stuff that lives up your bum has lots of nasty bacteria in it. Lets face it, it's POO!
If you get any symptoms then go to the doc and get checked out IMMEDIATELY. It could get worse, spread to the rest of your body, or affect y... (read in full...)
Irish catholic?????
Q. This guy described himself once as "Irish catholic." obviously, this means he's Irish, but does it mean he's also of the catholic religion? Sorry, this is probably a stupid question....
A. 31 January 2009: If someone describes themselves as a catholic, it probably means they are a catholic.
The fact they mention religion at all means they are either religious, or have been affected by the troubles and therefore would never consider a protesta... (read in full...)
I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?
Q. Hi. I have never gotten what I wanted in terms of love. I've always jumped for the stars, but landed even harder for it. I continually go for the girl who is my dream, rather than reality. I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this ...
A. 31 January 2009: Try wearing less eyeliner?
Sorry I don't mean to tease, but it says you have an age of 13 - 15.
Seriously, I never had my first kiss till I was 14. You've hardly been left at the alter!
Give it a few years and you'll be out of that horrible ... (read in full...)
Every day we get a "run-down" of pregnant co-worker's condition!
Q. Hi, i need some advice on how to deal with my colleague.She is 7 months pregnant and all she goes on about all day at work is her baby!!! Its her 1st and i know she is excited but honestly from the moment she gets in work at 9am until 4.45pm whe...
A. 31 January 2009: GOD I GET THIS ALL THE TIME!!!
I live on an army base and I am the only woman who doesn't have a baby. This means I deserve pity / funny looks.
All the girls here have their ENTIRE LIVES revolving around their kids. 2 of them are currently pr... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances?
Q. I have posted on here before about a girl i really like and we have talked every day wether it be text, email, or msn and i am starting to fall for her i think. It's only been about 6 weeks that i've properly known her (she's a friend of a friend) ...
A. 30 January 2009: Hmm, this is a tough one. It sounds like she's one of these girls who likes being alone and single, but craves the closeness of a relationship.
The fact that she turned away from your kiss speaks volume to me.
Just ask her if she thinks she c... (read in full...)
I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...?
Q. I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...? I can't go through his phone because no one calls and he tells everyone that does call to call him back because he's with me. What do you suggest???...
A. 30 January 2009: Short of hiring a private detective I'm not sure what to tell you.
Why do you think he's cheating?
If he was then what would you do?
If you have actual evidence already then why not just confront him and see what happens. If you are just... (read in full...)
Should I give this man up or continue to be a goofy?
Q. Hello, I'm currently in a relationship but it seems like every time he wants to be free he tells me "I'm not messing with you any more" but then when he wants to come home it's "oh baby I love you". 9 out of 10 I'm pregnant but I don't think I can ...
A. 30 January 2009: This guy is messing you about and using you and you know it.
Why would you stand for that when you have kids to care for?
Kick him out and don't take his calls. Don't be available for him to call you up and tell you "I made a mistake, and I l... (read in full...)
Confused as to whether he's actually busy, or all of a sudden he's just not interested in me anymore, or even getting back with his ex?
Q. Where do i stand with him? There is this boy that i work with and we're pretty good friends. A few months ago he broke up with his gf of 2 years and since then we've got really close. we were pretty close even when he was with his gf though as she w...
A. 30 January 2009: if they are trying to be friends then he may be trying to not make her jealous or upset her. That could be why he's backed away from you.
He's said he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment so you just have to treat him like a mate. If he's bac... (read in full...)
I need my job. So how can I cope with my ex courting another girl? We're all coworkers.
Q. Hoping someone might have input on this. I split with my boyfriend about three months ago. I do have to seem him each day because we both work a second job. I felt bad about the breakup at first but am moving on now. Lately he has been a little ...
A. 30 January 2009: Do you have a mutual friend who could talk to him for you? I think he just assumes that if his Ex Girlfriend (you) found out that he was seeing a new girl, you might make it difficult to all work together. Or perhaps he just doesn't want to upset ... (read in full...)
She loves someone else, but I want to be with her! How can I win her over? Or should I even try?
Q. hey everyone, this is my 1st question on here and i dont exactly know how to say it, well in order to understand it 1st off, u need to know the basic story. we are incredibly close, she is the only one who knows what i truly am like, ive known her ...
A. 30 January 2009: I'm really sorry hun, but you've told her how you feel twice and she's rejected you.
She wouldn't be telling you that she is thinking of marrying this guy if she wanted you instead.
It's a bit cruel of her to keep you around to be honest. Gener... (read in full...)
I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends.
Q. Hi there, I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends. I only found out as my 18 month old son was playing with her phone. I took the phone off him as I didn't want him to break it and found tha...
A. 30 January 2009: Sounds like it wasn't a good kiss then...
What COULD well have happened was that he basically pounced on her and then he's texting her asking for more.
She's basically telling him to piss off and die in a gutter in the text you read.
Tell he... (read in full...)
Should I keep going with her or just dump her?
Q. I been sorta dating (well starting to) this chick and we hang like all day and shit but she has been sorta like edgy when I try to get close or put me arm around her, I get this werid vibe and she sorta moves away and doesn't like hugs back much ...
A. 30 January 2009: Talk to her about it when you see her.
xx... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his next baby mom.
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend since Febuary 22 2008... and it's going on a year. Okay now we have had sex already but we don't have sex very often like maybe 2 times a month and he has a baby. Let me tell the story - ...
A. 30 January 2009: Jesus, what does this guy want? A girlfriend, or 50 children??
He went and had UNPROTECTED sex with his ex girlfriend as soon as you split up, and then is content to abandon her and be with you, but only if you ruin your life as well.
Sweathe... (read in full...)
Should I have to be the one to say "Yes I want you stop seeing other people"?
Q. I am currently in a non-exclusive relationship. I feel that I am not able to continue this way because I am falling for him and fear being hurt when he is with another girl. I told him this and he said that if I gave the word he would stop seeing ...
A. 30 January 2009: This the American dating system so the whole thing is a bit weird to me....
But as I see it so far, you've said:
You: "I don't like you seeing other girls?"
Him: "Oh, Ok, do you want us to be exclusive?"
You: ...........
What is... (read in full...)
Should I keep going with her or just dump her?
Q. I been sorta dating (well starting to) this chick and we hang like all day and shit but she has been sorta like edgy when I try to get close or put me arm around her, I get this werid vibe and she sorta moves away and doesn't like hugs back much ...
A. 30 January 2009: It sounds to me like she just sees you as a really good mate. Have you ever actually asked her out, or did you just get closer because you started hanging out like mates?
Ask her if she actually wants you to be her boyfriend or if she just see... (read in full...)
Do city guys like girls who live in the countryside?
Q. I need some advice on city men. I am a countryside girl, I'd like to know how do I deal guys because I find them different form countryside lads....
A. 30 January 2009: This is oneof those questions where the answer is simply "Some do, some don't."
You can't generalise men and especially not city men as that is part of their charm.
I find country and small town men tend to be more set in their ways and t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talking to another girl on MSN but says there is nothing in it???
Q. Last week my boyfriend left his MSN open. I went into it and seen that he had been messaging a girl. The messages were not of a sexual nature however he was saying that they must mail in secret so that I would not find out, he was saying how bad ...
A. 30 January 2009: It is very possible for him to have female friends, even if he just met them on the internet.
BUT!!
He lied to you, he made it clear to her that their friendship was a secret from you, and he was talking about all your problems and about how un... (read in full...)
Still haven't had my cycle yet and I'm beginning to fear I'm pregnant.
Q. Hello I'm 14 years old and I had sex with my boyfriend on January 15 2009 and today is January 30 2009 and I still haven't had a cycle. I'm starting to feel a little different. I really believe I am pregant. Yes I have told my boyfriend and he is ...
A. 30 January 2009: If you are pregnant then you need to consider your options. Your mum is going to go nuts. There is no way she is going to react calmly to the news that her 14 year old daughter has ruined her life and is having a baby after having underage sex.
... (read in full...)
I got a sexual text from another guy..my b/f see it..now I'm wondering if he loves me?
Q. I have a boyfriend,an incident happens between us the other day.actually their is this other guy texing my phone saying he wants to get in a relationship with me.one day my boyfriend grab my phone went in my phone and saw a a tex the guy send me ...
A. 30 January 2009: You just have to let him forgive you and keep working your way back to fixing it.
In the future if a boy makes some kind of comment about liking you or texts you something like that then you should tell your boyfriend and then text this guy back... (read in full...)
When can I talk to her about sex?
Q. me and my gf have been together 4 2weeks and 4days.when do i talk to her about sex? by the way im 14 and she15...
A. 30 January 2009: Mate if you ask her for sex after 2 weeks she will dump you!
You've been together less than a MONTH!! It will sound like that is all you want from her.
Not to mention that you are underage. Have you even seen her in her bra yet?
If you ... (read in full...)
Strange headaches
Q. Since I was young I've been having these terrible headaches which sometimes lead on to migranes, I've tried glassess twice, been to the doctors etc, even been in hospital at one stage they were so bad. They stopped for a while but the headache...
A. 30 January 2009: I get really bad headaches too. They used to put my in bed for the day. It was the worst pain I ever felt.
I found that going on the pill did wonders as it was hormones that set them off at certain times of the month.
Try keeping a diary ... (read in full...)
I'm not going to let him have his way, I want him to take me serious.
Q. What the heck?!? My boyfriend of a few days kept joking around and making comments about having sex. So, I figured that I should mention 'no sex' yet. I want to get to know him better and not rush into it! Basically, I'm not ready yet. His respo...
A. 30 January 2009: You said "no sex yet", he said "yeah yeah yeah", then you said "No, seriously, no sex yet!" and he threw a sulk....
That is not a good sign hun. When he decides to stop being a 12 yearold girl and actually talk to you again I think you need to ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your cherry has popped?
Q. I am a virgin and I had to wear tampons for swimming. I also have been fingered a couple of times. I don't know if my cherry popped or not. How do I know?...
A. 30 January 2009: The whole idea of virginity is kind of changing now.
The hymen used to be the big thing, but that was back when girls sat around embroidering dresses all day. Now we use tampons and dance and run and ride bikes and everything else, the hymen ha... (read in full...)
I think he loves his video games more than he does me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now, we get along wonderfully with one exception, I think he loves his video games more than me. He always wants to stay in and play. Sometimes I get to play with him but I'm not very good. He takes me ...
A. 30 January 2009: Just keep organising dates (cheap ones) and make him meet you out, rather than going round.
Go to the movies, walk by the river to a pub, get your bikes out!
Anything that gets him away from his games.
Either that or spend a bit less time wi... (read in full...)
He's moving too fast for me.
Q. I've been dating this lad for a few week but we haven't met yet. I know it probably seems stupid but I've seen him in person before but didn't really talk to him properly and now he keeps asking to meet me and I just want him to lay off for a bit. I...
A. 30 January 2009: If he's an internet boyfriend to you then you have to let him know that you are not ready for a REAL boyfriend just yet and it's online or nothing.
There is a good chance that he wants a Real Life girlfriend at the moment so you may lose him but ... (read in full...)
I sent a text about my husband TO my husband by mistake!!!!
Q. Hi. I accidentally sent a text message to my husband that was intended for my mom. His parents had asked him to do something that I felt was unfair and at a bad time. I am a stay at home mom of his three children. His mom, dad, sister and her live ...
A. 29 January 2009: He knew your feelings so if he got that confirmed in a text then I really don't think it's going to be as much of a drama as you think.
As long as you didn't say "his slut of a mother has stolen my generator. He's weak like his useless fat fath... (read in full...)
Is there hope for this relationship?
Q. I've been sick for the past two days, and thus, have had a lot of time to think about my relationship with my boyfriend. We're been living together for half a year now, and he's starting to get to me: - he's childish. IE: he's 21 and still ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hun, anyone can touch you and cuddle you. It's a minimum requirement, not a positive.
You should never ever stay in a relationship where you feel you are settling because "he is nice sometimes."
These are some pretty major problems he has ... (read in full...)
Sensual massage oils...?
Q. I want to surprise my boyfriend on valentine's day with some sensual massage oil and was wondering if anyone had any recommendations? We have used some standard Body Shop and Boots stuff before but I want to splash out a little but am not sure which ...
A. 29 January 2009: The durex stuff is great.
The minty tingly stuff is amazing in sensitive places.
Pop down to anne summers and load up. It tastes nice too!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Please help my ex-teacher situation.
Q. I'm not used to this, but I shall try my hardest There was this teacher that I had two years ago but things got a bit sticky as he got investigated because of his behaviour towards me and things. I haven't had him as a teacher since january 2...
A. 29 January 2009: He cannot speak to you.
It's not worth risking his career for just for a conversation. He also risks getting a criminal record and being plastered all over the local paper because he will be suspected of lots more things.
I know it's hard b... (read in full...)
I was wondering is there a chance there could have been sperm on his penis from the first round?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were having sex today, we used contraception and I'm going on the pill when my next period is due but anyway we were having sex and he came and everything that was round one. Round two we were having sex and the condom ripped ...
A. 29 January 2009: Go and get the morning after pill.
Put family planning and the name of your town into google and you should come up with a list of places to get it.
The chances of you being pregnant are small but it is NEVER worth the risk of just leaving it.... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex just as bad as physical cheating?
Q. Hi, i have a problem i am in a happy relationship i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he works away in the week i only see him at weekends. I have been chatting to this guy online but i also now him, everytime we talk after a while it ...
A. 29 January 2009: It's maybe not as bad as having an affair but it's close. Imagine your boyfriend saying those kinds of things to some girl he's friends with online.
It still counts as cheating and you need to stop it before you get caught.
If you can't stop o... (read in full...)
My husband looks at pics of really young girls, how can I stop him?
Q. my husband looks at pics of really young girls, what can i do to stop him? hi every one, for most people, I have a perfect relationship, and to some extent i believe it. me and my husband are in our 28-29s and been together for 3 years. he watche...
A. 29 January 2009: This goes beyond the porn aspect. This is illegal stuff he's looking at which means he's been on some REALLY NASTY sites in order to get them.
I think if you've had it out already with him and he has carried on then you have some serious choices ... (read in full...)
My GF's parents think I'm too old!
Q. I'm 20 and my girlfriend has just turned 16, when she was 15 she told me that her parents were strict and wouldn't approve of the relationship, she's now 16 and they found out about us even though we didn't want them to know yet. They've made her...
A. 29 January 2009: The police cannot do anything unless they suspect that you did anything sexual with her while she was under 16.
However, she is still their daughter and living under their roof. If they do not want you to see her then you can either force her to c... (read in full...)
How can I lift his spirits? Is time the only healer?
Q. I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. This is the second time it has happened (the first time, we had one year apart before giving it another go), however this time we are living together. I feel so terrible, as there is nothing ...
A. 29 January 2009: Anything you do will either lead him on that there may be hope OR will just come across as patronising pity.
Do NOT tell him you love him (in any way) as this is jut cruel. Do Not try and cheer him up. You can't.
Just do your best to get out ... (read in full...)
Is boarding school going to be a form of bladder torture for me?
Q. I'm writing to inform you of a severe medical health issue which is currently provoking/upsetting my bladder. In the past, I've always been regarded as the owner of a strong bladder - and been able to hold my urine (often in large quantities due to ...
A. 29 January 2009: I get like this some times.
Take some multi-vitamins and drink lots to clear your kidneys out this weekend when you have access to the loo.
If that doesn't sort you out then pop to the doc.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is there a mind trick to figure out whether girls like you or not?
Q. Hi everyone i just found this site. Well im 14 and i have not had a proper relationship yet. Everyone seems to be with each other (Ironicly my mates arnt either lol) but i have known this girl since we started school and we have become really good ...
A. 29 January 2009: You are not a jedi I'm afraid, so you'll just have to rely on what the rest of us do.
Read her body language. Does she ever touch you, stare into your eyes etc?
Just try putting your arm round her if she says she's cold and you should pick up e... (read in full...)
Are condoms safe?
Q. If you can't use the pill is condoms very safe?? What are their success rate?...
A. 29 January 2009: They are 98% effective if used correctly. They are 85% effective if you do it wrong.
There are many other things you can do if you have problems with the pill.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_birth_control_methods
This page shoul... (read in full...)
Sex games?
Q. First I'm gay and I don't want any annoying advice on it, I get enough of it already. I'm meeting and going camping with him soon and he wants to play some sex games and I want to look like I know what I'm doing (even though I don't 0_0) any advice ...
A. 29 January 2009: Whether you are gay or not, you are still below the age of consent.
Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with and use condoms.
Other than that you just have to relax and enjoy yourself. Let him take the lead.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How on earth am I going to make it to April? How do I keep this going?
Q. Needing a bit of advice. Sorry for the length but it's a long story. Just before Christmas, I ended up back in touch with my high school boyfriend after 3 years of not really keeping in touch. We lost contact when a mutual best friend killed ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hun you shouldn't be worried about "how to keep it going till April."
If you run out of things to talk about then, then it wouldn't have worked anyway.
As for how to cope with the waiting you just have to keep busy and try not to think about i... (read in full...)
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