My boyfriend's roommate proposed to me!

A female age 41-50, *aBtrfly08 writes:

Hi. I have a guy (Mr. Lover) that I am seeing and he is a nice guy but i know that this thing we have between us wont go anywhere and he has asked me to marry his brother to help get status in this country so i believe that that is the reason he likes me and tries to keep me around b/c i told him that if we are together i would do it to help him but i know he sleeps around with others and i dont really love him but i just go around because i dont want to be mean. in the beginning i thought it would be more but i soon realized that this guy wants something from me so i stopped doing all that i was doing for him but as i said. i would still go over to see him, its getting old because i know what i want for my life and its definitely not that. Now he has a roommate (Mr. Roomie) that is new in the country and Roomie had started asking me to find a girlfriend for him but i dont have many friends so its hard but i try and he then began teling me periodically that he wants to marry for status as well and he said if he finds someone to love then he would want to settle with the person. So now soetimes he would ask Mr. Lover if I can take him different places like the store etc... becuz Mr. Lover would be busy or he would be ashamed to ask him or something so i would take him sometimes and he would always ask my opinion on things. Last night he called me and said i should come over to their place b/c he wants to talk to me, now mind u we would talk sometimes and discuss things about women that he may have had interest in so this wasnt new to me but when i got there he began to give me his whole life story and then he asked me, "if i asked u to marry me, would u" and i was shocked but then i said i dont know maybe uner different circumstances. Then he said that he would tell Mr Lover that night that he is wanting to marry me. So i told him not to do it but he said he will because on several occassions Lover asked him if he should give me to Mr Roomie he said they have discussed it numerous times i was surprised. Then he asked me to stop sleeping with Mr Lover and also because Mr Lover has multiple partners..... so i asked him if he wanted to marry for business or love so he began telling me how from the first day he saw me he felt something inside of himself but because of Mr Lover opening his door to him he couldnt say anything but now that he sees no future between Lover and me he is ready.

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