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writes:Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for about 21/2 years. He talks about our future alot, but he has never popped the question! what is the hold up? Should I ask where our relationship is going? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Dropping small hints like maybe a bridal magazine or something on the kitchen table that kinda thing. For all you know he might be planning something.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 January 2009):
Have you tried stopping on front of wedding dress shops and pointing out suits that he'd look great in, or asking his taste in dresses?
If that doesn't work then another good one is to spot a ring in a jewellers and point it out "Oh but it's an engagement ring so you couldn't really get it for my birthday - I'll just have to wait for a nice man to buy it and go down on one knee."
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): After 2 1/2 years you have every right to ask where this realtionship is going, if you don't know by now, this is not a good sign.
Open and honest communication is the key. Ultimatums don't work, but let him know that you need an answer by a certain time frame, that you understand if he can't marry you, but that you want that for yourself and that if he doens't want to give that to you, or he isn't capable of it then you need to move on. Give him a deadline so to speak...it sounds crazy, but it isn't. There is nothing wrong with asking a man for a commitment, in fact it is good for him even if he doesn't think it is a good idea. Men live longer if they are married, they are more successful and they are ultimately happier because they are not lonely and they have the secuity a forever relationship brings. Tell him this, it is not that you just want to be married to anyone, but you want to very much be married to him because you love HIM.
Let him stew on that for awhile and let him give you an answer, and be prepared for anything.
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