My b/f lost his dream how to comfort him?
Q. My boyfriend has jus been told hes being medically dscharged after several injuries from the royal marines and he is devestated. It was his dream 2 be a royal marines commando. How do i comfort and help him at this time and through it? :( x...
A. 2 August 2009: I'm sorry to hear that.
Sounds like his head is in a right mess at the moment. Depression really brings out the worst in people.
I hope he sorts himself out and I hope you manage to move on and find happiness with no hard feelings.
Goo... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with the computer, and I'm neglected!
Q. 23 January 2009: Im in a relationship and seem to be unable to get my mans attention. He is always on the computer and messing around and I feel neglected in many areas.I am at my ropes end and dont know what to do.........All I want is to feel ...
A. 24 January 2009: Well if he just sees you as a maid then stop going round. Tell him it's over and find someone else.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do I feel awkward around female co-worker?
Q. Hello. I've been quite contented in a relationship which has lasted so far for 2 years. However, I feel rather awkward when I'm talking to a particular woman at work. When other guys talk to her I feel a little knot in my stomach. So what does this ...
A. 24 January 2009: You feel protective over her.
This means you see her as either a girlfriend who you want for yourself, or you are so close that you see her like a little sister who must be protected from these guys.
I can't tell you if you like her as a si... (read in full...)
Low rating on dear cupid?
Q. Why do I have such a low rating on dearcupid? Do I have trolls? haters? Just wondering if anyone can spill me in. I'm new here and I do give brutally honest answers but that's because english wasn't my first language and so sometimes my eng...
A. 24 January 2009: Maybe people just don't like the advice you give?
Sorry but you say you are brutally honest so I have to be too.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My fiance really wants a baby, but I don't want to see her in pain!
Q. Hey um I'm 20 years old my fiance is 17. I was her first + vice versa. We are very much in love, getting married next year, but our (ok, my) problem is that she REALLY wants a baby. I want one too and now is not a bad time, but I hear its very pai...
A. 24 January 2009: Yes it's going to hurt, but the baby is worth it in the end for most women.
You should definitely wait till after you get married and have been married for at least a year to have a baby. You need to make sure you can deal with a LOT of stress b... (read in full...)
IF I have sex will a doctor know?
Q. Okay, I've been dating this guy for a year now, I'm in love with him. Like any woman who is physically attracted to someone, I want him. SOOO bad. I've never wanted someone so bad. I know we'll be together 'forever' or else I'd never con...
A. 24 January 2009: The fact you are having to sneak round and don't understand all this is a clear sign that you aren't ready for sex.
The age of consent is there for a reason. Imagine if it went wrong and the condom broke. Would you be ok going to a doctor to get t... (read in full...)
He hasn't contacted me in 4 weeks??!
Q. We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me everyday..last time i saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him... and I told him That hes ...
A. 24 January 2009: You asked this the other day and got some pretty good advice.
He's a loser, text him and ask him if it's over between you and if he doesn't get straight back to you then assume it is.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I go into marriage without financial stability?
Q. Should i go into marriage, even though i'm not finish my College degree and only earn $120 a week? I would also be going against the better judgment of my Whole family, who thinks i should finish school and get a decent job before i marry. My ...
A. 24 January 2009: If you are together then you are together. What is the difference between how you are now and how you will be when you are married? It's only a legal contract at the end of the day.
You could stay exactly the same as you are now, even living a... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 24 January 2009: Well it depends why you want to contact him. If it's just because you love him and want him back and want answers then unfortunately you have no right to that information.
You can report him missing to the police and they can confirm that he is he... (read in full...)
I couldn't see myself moving across the country to be with her but I miss her!
Q. Hi, I'm extremely confused about a decision I made regarding an important relationship of mine. My girlfriend had to move across the country, and I was extremely hesitant to follow her because she had an incredible amount of difficulty openi...
A. 24 January 2009: Of course you are going to miss her. She was your girlfriend and now she has gone.
If you don't think you can be in a relationship with her and it make you healthy and happy then you have made the right choice.
The fact that you have mention... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with the computer, and I'm neglected!
Q. 23 January 2009: Im in a relationship and seem to be unable to get my mans attention. He is always on the computer and messing around and I feel neglected in many areas.I am at my ropes end and dont know what to do.........All I want is to feel ...
A. 24 January 2009: You don't say anything about having actually spoken to him about any of this.
As one of the other aunts says, he is not psychic, if you keep acting loving and bringing him his meals and looking after him then how is he supposed to know you are ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregnant or is this just normal?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship but everytime we meet up we have sex. We met up and decided to not use a condom. He didn't "cum" inside me but could i still be pregnant as i have missed a period or is this just normal?...
A. 23 January 2009: "We have decided not to use a condom."
I can't even begin to describe what it wrong with that statement.
I'll say this clearly as you are obviously not very intelligent if you don't think condoms are a good idea.
HAVING SEX WHILE NOT USING ... (read in full...)
Is my Dad interefering with my children?
Q. hi, i grew up in a house where my father was very controlling, violent at times and me and my brothers and sisters were scared of him. we have all left home now, (including my mother who left him almost 6 years ago), none of them bother with him...
A. 23 January 2009: Just stand your ground.
If he says he wants to take you shopping on sunday and you are busy then just tell him that it will have to be next week.
If he makes statements about how he is going to buy medical supplies or whatever for the kids for... (read in full...)
Can her body handle being pregnant with a partial uterus?
Q. My girlfriend had cervical cancer and we want artificial insemination and we aint sure if her uterus can support it cause she had to have some removed. Can her body handle being pregnant with a partial uterus?...
A. 23 January 2009: Ask her doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Signs a guy likes a girl
Q. Hey I was just wondering what are some signs that a guy likes a girl?...
A. 23 January 2009: He asks her out, comes on to her or tries to kiss her.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend won't move out, what do I do!
Q. Hello everyone. I have broken up with my now ex-boyfriend of 8 months because of him trying to get back with a ex. So as a result of that, I do not want him living with me anymore. He is not on my lease, he does pay half rent and utilities. I told ...
A. 23 January 2009: Give him written notice that he has to be out in 30 days time. Take legal advice and check if this is legally binding in your state - Your landlord may know all the rules so you could try asking him or the people at the company you rent from.
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He means more to me than anyone and I don't want to move on!
Q. This goes back a while, about 8 months to be exact. I went on holiday towards the end of March/beginning of April. It was a little place, no where fancy. I was never a believer of love at first sight but when I saw this bloke who worked there as an ...
A. 23 January 2009: So in total you've actually spent about 6 minutes in his company? He flirted and was good looking and was nice to you.
I think what you have to realise is that you have made him into your perfect boyfriend in your mind. You've put him up on a ped... (read in full...)
Does my ex-boyfriend still have feelings for Me?
Q. Ok so I walk into the libray where I hang out by myself and when I enter the building I saw my ex-boyfriend for the 2nd time looking around for somebody. I pass by him to get a seat and say "hola!" He soon follows me to my seat and notces my sketch ...
A. 23 January 2009: Looks like it. Any man who grabs you and goes to kiss you would have to have some kind of feelings for you.
Either that or he's a psycho who's playing mind games. The fact he was grabbing you and not letting go is a bit worrying.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
The husband wants a threesome with the neighbor...
Q. help, my husband was talking about us having a threesome with our neighbor, what do i do?...
A. 23 January 2009: You don't say if you want to do it or not.
If you want to do it then do it and have fun, but be careful that your husband knows you are the most important one.
If you don't want to do it then tell your husband to keep dreaming and remind him t... (read in full...)
How should my boyfriend and I deal with a girl who is trying ot get between us?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I have a question and the answer may be obvious to some, but I have never dealt with a situation like this before and I don't want to do the wrong thing and blow things out of proportion, I want to deal with this correctly. ...
A. 23 January 2009: Ok, so the situation right at this moment is:
1. You and your boyfriend are fine and happy.
2. Dramatic girl is being dramatic.
Really I don't think you have to do anything at this point. If she wants to flatter his ego and make a fool of h... (read in full...)
Why does it ruin it over stupid little things? Or am I taking it too seriously?
Q. Ok well me and my bf have been together about a year and 2 months or so .. but lately things have started to go wrong.. we've just been having STUPID arguments, i wont go into to details but they are petty. Latest one was he got annoyed with me ...
A. 23 January 2009: This is what dating is all about. There are good times and bad times. You are hardly going to meet your perfect and emotionally mature man at 17!
You have to decide to either put up with the fact that he throws stroppy tantrums every now and then... (read in full...)
He insists he isn't playing mind games but I think he is!
Q. I think my friends playing mind games although he says he isnt and ''respects me'' he flirts one minute, (when we are drunk he tries to kiss me nearly every time we go out. we came close to having sex one night but we stopped)..then the next wee...
A. 23 January 2009: From the fact that you are so willing to let him kiss you and nearly have sex, it sounds like you want more than friendship with him.
I think he just wants to be friends and the fact he's an unreliable friend is just hurting you because it feels... (read in full...)
Could we simply remain friends after having sex?
Q. I recently started a friends with benefits relationship. We both argreed it would be physical only and that we would remain friends after. We both care about each other but do not love one another.I was wondering if people can actually remain just ...
A. 23 January 2009: Yes you can both be friends after with no problems.
I had guys who I liked and got on with as a mate and who were attractive and every now and then we'd end up in bed together because it was fun and we knew it meant nothing. As long as you don;... (read in full...)
I'd like her to reduce her "game time" when I'm around..should I have said something sooner?
Q. There is a girl whom I met whilst in my last year of sixth form and have been friends with ever since. We get on fairly well and have recently been in each other's company more. Unfortunately, she is a big fan of computer games and plays it all the ...
A. 23 January 2009: You've said you felt ignored and she said "ok."
There is no problem here any more. This is called communication.
You can't expect your girl / boyfriend to be psychic. You told her you weren't happy and not she's said she'll try and pay you more... (read in full...)
I don't want to run into the ex
Q. Earlier this week, a friend of mine at university suggested that all the guys go on a trip to Preston, a city in the North west of England. According to him, there are 4 women to every 1 man. I'm not sure I believe that, but that doesn't bother ...
A. 23 January 2009: If she's the type that goes out to the student nights (and on Monday and Wednesday it's the big student nights out in town) then you may bump into her as the venues are not that big.
If you are heading up there for the weekend then you will not... (read in full...)
Where is the sweetest part of a girl?
Q. where is the sweeties part of a girl?...
A. 23 January 2009: Her love of small animals!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What do I do now that I've told her I like her?
Q. Well i finall got the courage to tell this one girl tat i liked her. so Now what do i do? this is the very first time i ever done something like this and she told me that she didnt expect it since i never treated her like if i ever did like her. so ...
A. 23 January 2009: You can be a little more friendly to her, and be a gentlemen. Hold doors, smile, tell her she looks good.
Then if she responds and seems more friendly then ask her out on a date.
There is no easy way to respond to the statement "I really like y... (read in full...)
Should I leave because of her vagina size or tell her it bothers me?
Q. My girlfriend vagina is much looser than any other women i have been in a serious relationship with, what really bothers me is that i dont have a small penis im actually well over average, so i kno its not me, I really like the person that she is, ...
A. 23 January 2009: Why on earth would you tell her???!?!?!?!?!
What would that do apart from seriously hurting her?
If you are not happy in the relationship then leave her. It doesn't sound like you are that serious about her if you can talk about her in thi... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat and then regret it?
Q. I've read a lot of columns involving how much people regret cheating on their spouses. Some of these people cheat and wonder why their spouses leave them? Why do it when the consequences are known to be the obvious results of the other person...
A. 23 January 2009: When you are in a situation when you just can't help but be tempted, the blood is not in your brain to make you act rationally.
This question is like asking "Why do men get angry and hit things when it won't solve anything?" "Why do women want a c... (read in full...)
Is it unrealistic to tell her to stop having contact with this guy?
Q. I don't usually do this but I got to summarise this and get an unbiased opinion. I will try my best not to be biased and favour myself. Ok, where do I begin? I hooked up with this girl about 3 years ago when I was about 19 at a pub, we saw each...
A. 23 January 2009: This is just how she is. She loves drama and she loves having guys after her and she flits from boy to boy to keep that feeling there.
She cheated on her ex, so it's likely she'll cheat on you. She can't resist temptation.
Sorry mate bu... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy has condoms?
Q. He has condoms at his place.. when I go to see him he's got condoms when we are going to have sex.. basically he has condoms in his room.. does this mean he's ******* other girls as well and that girls comes over to have sex..?? Please is he ...
A. 23 January 2009: It means he's a switched on responsible lad. I'd be FAR more worried if you got back to his place, got to THAT point and then he said "Oh no sorry, I don't have any thing to use, let's carry on anyway."
If he's dating you then OF COURSE he's goi... (read in full...)
My breasts are shrinking!
Q. My breasts are shrinking. Why? I'm 20, and I developed at age 11. I've always been a 36B. I still am, however, since I lost weight, I've lost some volume. However, my weight has been the same since last year. Exactly the same. However, me an...
A. 23 January 2009: I think if you have lost weight then you may be still be toning up and unfortunately that means you lose fat from places like your breasts.
Breasts are basically just big fat storage areas with the theory being that you'll do so much breast f... (read in full...)
Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?
Q. Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?...
A. 22 January 2009: If it's on a first date, or say, in a pub toilet then yes they will. They'll call you again though. They'll just never see you as girlfriend material.
If it's as part of sex in a loving relationship then they won't.
Of course there are always... (read in full...)
Do his text kisses mean he wants to be more than friends?
Q. i am wondering what the kisses at the end mean when the text is coming from a guy, as i know that when girls text, they nearly always put kisses so dont mean as much, but when ur getting like 8, 9 or 10 kisses at the end of a text from a guy is he ...
A. 21 January 2009: 10 kisses is a bit excessive.
He may like you so make yourself available to him and see if he makes a move.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
If he cups your face when he kisses you, does he really like you?
Q. When a guy kisses you for the first time and he cups your face with both hands does that mean he really likes you?...
A. 21 January 2009: Asked the husband and he agrees it means nothing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I love all your advice, but I cant get myself to take it!
Q. regarding my last question starting "Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can!" - you guys gave me excllent advice. And i can sit ...
A. 20 January 2009: Just say hi to him.
Think of it like this. You can type those 2 letters and press enter, or you can sit and suffer.
At the end of it all, we can advise you but if you mess up your life then no one will care very much.
You shape your future... (read in full...)
How can I encourage her to take sex at face value and enjoy it for the moment?
Q. I have a good relationship with a female friend. I want our relationship to become closer and I want sex. She seems hesitant. How can I encourage her to take sex at face value and enjoy it for the moment? What are some benefits she could receive by ...
A. 20 January 2009: If she wants sex then she will come to you. You have made your position clear that you want fun and you find her attractive.
She may want a boyfriend and if that is so then you will have to leave her alone to find one so she does not end up falli... (read in full...)
Lesbian - with homophobic parents and friends
Q. It has been over the last year or so that I have really began to think about my sexuality, as well as various other thnigs as well (including religion etc.) as I am at the age when that thinking is to be done. A year back from now, I believed I was ...
A. 20 January 2009: Hun, I'm not sure if this is what you want to hear, but I don't think you should tell people.
I know you are thrilled to have found something so big about yourself and it must be great to feel like you know what is going on. I also know you must... (read in full...)
I was wondering how old you are before you stop getting crushes?
Q. Hi, I was wondering how old you are before you stop getting crushes? I'm 26 and for the past 2 years have had the hugest crush (or so I think it is) on 1 of my senior managers at work. Every time I see him I get this thud feeling in my stomach and ...
A. 20 January 2009: I'm 25 married and still get them.
What helps me is recognising that is it JUST a crush. It's silly and a bit of fluff. Like reading a romance novel. It's not serious. If you make fun of it and take the mickey out of yourself then that will hel... (read in full...)
Is it cheating to kiss a girl when I have a boyfriend?
Q. I'm bisexual and i have a boyfrind. But is it wrong to check out other girls when i have a boyfriend? Is it cheating to kiss a girl, even though it is a different sex then my boyfriend?...
A. 20 January 2009: This is one where different couples have different rules.
My husband would treat me kissing a girl in exactly the same way as if I kissed a man. He'd be devastated.
My ex said I could kiss as many girls as I wanted as long as he could watch. ... (read in full...)
My b/f lost his dream how to comfort him?
Q. My boyfriend has jus been told hes being medically dscharged after several injuries from the royal marines and he is devestated. It was his dream 2 be a royal marines commando. How do i comfort and help him at this time and through it? :( x...
A. 15 January 2009: Let him have a bit of time to himself to be miserable and broody and hit things.
Men don't want to talk about their feelings as much as us girls.
In the mean time do some research on other "tough" jobs. There are many other things he could ... (read in full...)
Pain & bleeding after sex
Q. im 24 and am really worried and dont know what to do. i have been with my partner for 4 years and have had no problems but recently i have started having pain during intercourse and also bleeding after sex. i am also bleeding when i am not having a ...
A. 15 January 2009: See your GP.
It could be something, or it could be stress or something minor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Sex and your virginity.
Q. Hello, I want to ask... that if a women has a sexual relationship for the first time and she does not bleed, does that means that she WASN'T a virgin to begin with???...
A. 15 January 2009: If she doesn't bleed then she has done one of the following:
ridden a bike, ridden a horse, used tampons, done running or gymnastics, taken a fall, masturbated or had sex.
Women were only "gauranteed" to bleed back in the day because they spe... (read in full...)
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