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writes: I have a parental dilemma about, using information, about "bad signs through facebook." I have access to my daughter's account, and I see alarming conversations. About drinking sex, and many very inappropriate behaviour, I don't ever hear from her.I know now, that she is in trouble and that she is lying to me. But I don't know, what to do about it. As even I admit I saw her on facebook, I still can't change what is she going to do, when she is not with me. SO I know she lied about her weekend, but I don't really know what is the most effective way to help her. Because, if I attack her, I push her further. Any good advice? thanks
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 January 2009):
I think you just have to tell her that you know something is going on with her and you want her to be able to talk to you about any worries she has or problems.
Just tell her that you've noticed she's changed and you trust her completely but want her to know you ARE there as a safety net.
Also you could just have a chat about how you are going to buy some condoms "Just because she's getting to that age."
If you think she is in serious danger of harm then you may have to come clean about seeing something on her facebook and that you are NOT angry but just want to know she's ok.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 You are exactly right you cant attack. All you can do is try to have your mother daughter time and keep reasurring her that you love her and that if she has any problems no matter what she can always come to you. And yea you be a little upset with her at first but she should know that ultimately no one could love her or care for her as much as you or her father (if he's still around you didnt say) does. Also, If you know that there is definitely something bad about to happen, then get in there right away and tell her that you know somethings up and because you love her and want to help her she needs to come clean. Other than that just do your best.
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