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female
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36-40,
*earning and experienced
writes:i'm currently in a two year relationship, where i've know my boyfriend for 3 years. we have had many ups and downs in our relationship for its duration, where i mostly was the one at fault. currently i celebrated a birthday and he didn't spend it with me. i spent it with a friend and many others. we went to dinner a concert and a club. at the club a guy i knew was dancing with me and we got real close dancing but nothing happened. however, someone took photos of the close dancing with me and the guy and they sent an email message to my boyfriend calling him a jackass and telling him what goes around comes around. he then immediately forward the email to me in the body typing wtf! i've been trying to call him and i've left many messages, via text, voice mail home, cell and work and instant messaging. i need to fix our relationship i need help as to what to do and how can i fix it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 January 2009):
If the relationship does not make you happy, and he doesn't sound happy either to me, then it may be better if you were single.
You can figure out what you want from life and find someone who can make you happy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Learning and experienced +, writes (13 January 2009):
Learning and experienced is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your prompt response. He did call me back. I think I may need to come out of this relationship. I want to be with him but he is not giving me what I would like which is that affection, social aspect and I thought I was able to deal with his homey appeal and lack of giving affection. We broke up recently because of a guy call my cell and I lied to him telling him it was a female friend because I knew how he would act and I was trying to avoid it. The guy that called my cell is an old friend from back then calling to wish me a Happy New Year (No it wasn't an EX it was just a friend that I was cool with) and it was late at night (Est. 10:45), he told me that he could've heard the voice of the guy on the phone but i tried to tell him that it was the background where my female friend was. I couldn't lie to long because I knew he had access to persons that called my cell (how I told really know). I think this was the last straw. But am taking this time to find myself and deal with me. Am tired of chasing after someone that is not meeting me 1/2 way.
What do you think?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 October 2008):
You have to give him time to calm down. At the moment he is angry so all your calls and texts will just make him think you have a guilty conscience.
Let him calm down and he will be back in touch.
I am sure you explained it was just a dance and nothing more in your messages so leave him to it for a bit.
He may or may not forgive you. But you must have a reason for "being at fault" in all these problems... and you were dirty dancing with a guy in a club in front of every one. Why?
Are you sure you would not be happier being single?
Good Luck!! xx
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