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writes:Hello everyone. My husband is in the military and is out on deployment for 6 months. This is our first time as a couple with him going away like this, long ago we were just friends. I'm going out of my mind I miss him so much. My question is has anyone gone through a deployment like this and did it make your relationship stronger or did it hurt it? I'm afraid we will drift apart. He hasn't even been gone a month and I'm worried although he did say to make sure we e-mail etc. alot which we have been doing. I'm just afraid. anyway advice appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWOW JENNI! 2 years? And I'm complaining over 6 little months? lol. How have you done it for this long? I need answers lol. Wow, congrats that your hubby is coming back! I really do hope this makes us stronger. It's hard when they go out to sea and the e-mail is down and I'm not able to receive e-mails from him but at least when he gets back from sea he can call. =) I'm not going to cheat...but then worry about him and the stories I hear about overseas. I trust him though but still I can worry a little bit =(
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reader, Jenni2878 +, writes (16 January 2009):
 STRONGER! just have fun stay in touch and don't let it get 2 u and u'll be better then ever. my hubbies been gone 2 yrs he gets back next month hooreyyyyy! just dont sweat any small stuff and yeah don't cheat its hard but its worth i. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): My sisters husband is in the military and has been sent off to another country several times for many years. Recently, he had been deployed to Iraq for the third time.... each time he gets deployed it is at least for a year. My sister is the strongest person that I know. I don't know how she does it, but I guess she keeps herself occupied with things to do and taking care of my two little nephews. Frequent exchanges of emails, web cams helps also. Perhaps, you could do a video document of yourself daily and send it to your husband to watch.
You must think positive. Talking with other military wives may help also. Stay strong and always remember to keep yourself occupied... Before you know it, he'll be in your arms in no time : ]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks emily! I am thinking of getting a second job to stay busy as possible! I know it's going to be hard. He just keeps mentioning make sure you e-mail me and send pictures and we'll be fine. I guess in his past relationships those things stopped and he found out she wasn't being true so I make sure to e-mail him everyday even if it's just to say I love him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 January 2009):
Wow you got as far as being married before he got deployed? That's pretty lucky!
Well mu husband is in the British Army as a medic. While we've been together he's done two 6 month deployments to Iraq and 3 months in Kosovo.
This 6 months will either make you or break you. It's going to be horrible for both of you.
What you have to do is fill as much of your time as humanly possible. Visit friends, take up a new hobby, get a saturday job, volunteer, do a study course, do all of the above.
He will change while he's away and so will you. He will become paranoid about EVERY man you mention, so just be aware that any time you mention going out for a drink with an old friend, he will spend the next week imagining that friend coming on to you and trying to steal you away.
It will be ok when he gets home, but it will take at least 6 weeks of stressing at eachother before you get back to normal.
Just fill your time and make sure you write LOTS and LOTS of letters to him. I cannot stress the importance that having something hand written by you to look at in his bed.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so so much sweetheart03. I would definitely not cheat on him or do anything to put us in jeapordy that's for sure. This really helps me a lot and makes me feel better and have been praying to god for strength through this. Thank you so much =)
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (13 January 2009):
My boyfriend plays football. So he's away a lot the key is to not cheat on him. A lot of miltary wifes can't handle the distance. It will make u stronger and his love for u will be great because he will see how good of a women u are by standing by him. Believe me he wants to be home and he thinks about u 24 7. I have friends in the miltary and there guys and I know how hard it is for them and there wifes to be away for a long time. Just be strong and faithful and god will handle the rest. Good luck
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