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writes: There's this really cute guy at my work that we flirt with each other a lot. Anyway we made out and did others things at his place. To a very long story short I found out hes married and of course he didn't tell me and I completely regart it. Does this make me a slut? Since I'm a single mom with a two year son (I made the stupid mistake of getting pregnant at 17 but luckily it was the summer so it didn't ruin my grad), Plus I like attention he gave me and I sort of want to do it again. I did tell him he needed act more faithful to his wife and leave me alone but he wont. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I suggest you go and read the numerous posts on here from cheaters, 'other women', injured parties....the stories have a couple of common themes - the main being heartbreak and pain. If you want to invite heartbreak and pain into your life AND your son's - then continue to flirt with this guy. If you think you deserve better - YOU stop it. You have a choice, you can CHOOSE to ignore him. You can choose not to engage in conversations about his private life, or yours. You can choose to avoid him. You can choose to do the right thing. It's not just your life you're playing with either - what advice would you give your son if he came to you with this same dilemma?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 February 2009):
Plexi had it perfectly right.
You sound like you've worked very hard to make a go of yourself rather than just saying "oops I'm pregnant, well that's my life over!"
And you've probably had to work so hard on making a living, getting a decent job, raising your child etc, that your love life has been a little neglected.
Sometimes we throw ourselves into a situation where we work and sleep and work and sleep and we forget who we are. I bet this was the first time in a while that you have felt like a sexy young woman who is desirable?
That feeling is like a drug and at this point, he is your dealer.
You know that this guy is no good and is a liar and a cheat and just using you because you are there.
And you KNOW you can do so much better than him.
So although he's there and tempting, why settle for third rate slimey guys when you could go out and find your Prince Charming.
Use this as a kick up the bum to get out and start meeting new guys. Tell this guy that he is married and he will NEVER being going anywhere near you again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, audie  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 u arent a slut coz u didnt know he was married. but now u know its up to u to do the right thing. if he wants to destroy his marriage- thats his choice just dont help him. make it crystal clear you dont want him and stay away. you'll get a man who deserves u and you wont have to look over your shoulder for his wife all th time. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): You are a single mother, and obviously attention from a cute guy will make you feel good physically, he might send feelings through your body that you did not feel for a long time, but what is this doing to you emotionally, you sound like a real decent girl, who doesn’t want to be the other woman, the woman that he cheated on his wife with, sounds like you don’t believe in cheating at all, and that’s a great thing, it says a lot about your character. No you are not a slut for allowing this to happen, he lied to you, or he could’ve had told you at least, and you could’ve decided for yourself. But I know that you wouldn’t have gone along with it, and perhaps he knew it to, to protect yourself and your heart, I would advise you get out of this, before you lose your heart and get it broken, just that this man took you the home he shares with his WIFE just proves how little respect he has for his wife, he sounds like a pig, and he could always turn nasty after he got what he wanted or even if you don’t give it up, what do you think??? This site is here for opinions, and mine is that this guy will use you cause he can see that you are a vulnerable girl with a child, and some men know how to play vulnerable girls, don’t let this man turn you into a slut, or make you out to be one, you know what is right. Other wise you would never have felt so bad about it You deserve a man that will love you and only you not a man who uses you in his family house while is wife is not there, you deserve a man that will make you feel like you are the only woman in the world, and I am sure that you will get that, right now it might be lonely I understand, but good things comes to those who waits. I hope that you get everything you want from life for you and your child.Please let me know what you have decided to do.Good luck
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 At this point you are not a slut of course. getting pregnant at 17 is besides the point, you were young , you made a mistake,etc, fooling around with a married man is not your fault if you were not aware, now you are. if you continue this involvement with a married man then you are an adulterous and are helping him wreck his marriage. if you want and need attention please get it elsewhere, there are soooooooooooo many single guys who would love to give you attention. just be firm with him and tell him you ARE NOT INTERESTED and do not answer his calls when he calls you. you need to leave him alone just as much as he needs to leave you alone, it takes 2!!!
p.s. dont you know that you should also never get involved with someone you work with? BAD IDEA!!!
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