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writes:I recently started going out with a guy who I have known for a few years and who has always been a great friend of mine. A few weeks ago, he asked me out, and it sounded like a good idea to me becuase I have always really liked him. As we have been dating the past few weeks, I realized that I don't really feel very attracted to him as anything more than a friend. I feel that I need to stop things as soon as possible, but I don't really know how, and I really don't want to hurt him. I would very much appreciate any advice that you could give me. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your advice, I still feel really bad about it, but I think I will no matter what. Thank your for your time.
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reader, miss jane  +, writes (11 February 2009):
i did this. i went out with one of my best friend it was so awkard so i ended up finishing him but on the good side him and me are so close now. i'd say if your not attracted to him finish it theres no point going out with someone that you dont fancy x but let him down gently if you still wanta be m8s with him
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 February 2009):
Oh this is a horrible situation.
You are going to hurt him as he must like you as more than a friend to have asked you out.
You just have to bite the bullet and do it. The longer you leave it the harder it will be for both of you.
Wait till you see him next and just say how you love him as a friend and you thought your feelings would grow because you think he's amazing, but they haven't and you don't think you will ever like him as more than a friend.
Ask him about his feelings. You may need to give him some space and time apart so he can get over you. If he does really like you and you are being there and being your fabulous self then he's not going to stop liking you. It's not fair on him and it's going to cause him enormous pain in the long run.
Do it sooner rather than later and let him be angry with you and go off with his guy friends for a while to drink and hit things and get over it.
Good Luck!! xx
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