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writes:Umm ok... on the seventh of this month I got drunk and made a mistake with a guy. I had sex with him and we didn't use protection. Well... I was supposed to start my period like the next day after that or so but I didn't. I sort of have an irregular cycle but for the past six months they have been normal. I have been getting my periods every month at around the same time. But... I missed it. I am afraid that I may be pregnant but I can not afford to get a test and I can not tell my parents. On Monday my parents are taking me to a hospital cause my therapist is afraid I am a danger to myself even though I am not but still. They will give me psych drugs and I don't want to take them if I am pregnant cause that can harm the baby. I don't know how to tell the doctors there. I don't know what to say and if they will tell my parents. If I am pregnant then I will tell my parents when I start to show but if I am not then I will never mention it. They don't know that I am no longer a virgin. I intend to keep it that way unless I end up being pregnant. I am just confused and do not know what to do. Help?
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Good luck! I really hope everything works out for you, but I don't think you are going to get the advise you want here.
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reader, YuukiBear +, writes (24 February 2009):
YuukiBear is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well Jessica04. I wouldn't take the meds anyways. I do NOT need them. And yeah it was a life altering mistake but my life changes all the time. A baby wouldn't be much of a difference since I am already the caretaker in my household. I am the one that takes care of the kids in the house and I take care of babies all the time. I know that it can get expensive but I have a job. The money doesn't even go to anything anyways. I just save it up and maybe every once in a while I spend it on minutes for my cell hone. I don't even have a life outside of work and school. I come home and take care of everyone. That night I got drunk was the first time I had gone out in almost a half a year. I am not your normal teen. I have been considered a mother since I was ten. Also, I am against both abortion AND giving a baby up for adoption.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Ok, honey, I don't want to judge, but earlier to Armymedic you said this was on little mistake? You weren't even having sex with your BF, you were having drunken sex with who you call a 'druggie' and now because you don't have any money to buy your own pregnancy test, you have no way of knowing if you are pregnant or not.
This is sounding like a pretty life altering mistake.
I am a pro-choice advocate, and if you won't listen to Armymedic because he is a man, then maybe take my opinion with a grain of salt. I truly feel that it would be in your best interest if you terminated this pregnancy. If your therapist, who has gone to medical school to be able to prescribe medication, says you need to be medicated, then do yourself, your family, and your future children a favor and follow his course of treatment. Even if that means you cannot have this baby.
If you are so against abortion, and you have every right to be, then I also strongly suggest you consider adoption. You are nothing more than a child yourself, and it would be your parents, not you, who would be giving up everything to take care of this baby. There are plenty of adult couples out there more ready than you are to care for a child. Financially and emotionally. Just be a kid right now, not a mom.
And if it helps you listen, then I'll air my dirty laundry. I am a psychology student with an emphasis on child development and a minor in counseling. I got pregnant at 17 and miscarried because of an abusive boyfriend. Do I know exactly where you are coming from? No, but I'm probably the only one who will come so close.
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reader, YuukiBear +, writes (24 February 2009):
YuukiBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry ARMYMEDIC. I was a bit harsh as well. I am just really freaked out and people keep bugging me about it that know. And also, if I am pregnant I don't know if my baby will have a dadda cause I don't know if my boyfriend will leave me or not and I can not let the real Dadda take care of the baby cause he (I found out) is a major druggie and I would never let my baby near that if I am pregnant. Well I am officially going on Wednesday morning and apparently I am going to get a physical tomorrow so I should get a test then. Thanks!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (23 February 2009):
Ok I was a little harsh.
Have you spoken to him yet/ done a pregnancy test?
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reader, YuukiBear +, writes (23 February 2009):
YuukiBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks ARMYMEDIC! That is just soo f*cking nice of you! I am not suicidal ok! God! It was a one time thing! It was one little f*cking mistake! And I will NEVER give up my baby if I am pregnant! I would give it the best f*cking life it could ever have! I would give up everything for my baby! It would not be child abuse if I kept it! It would be child abuse if I killed it! Did you know at less then a month the baby has fingernails!?!? No! You didn't! So don't you be saying it would be child abuse! And plus! You are a guy so you do not know the trauma it is for women who give up their baby! It would kill me to give my baby up if I am pregnant!Oh and thank you EMILYSANSWERS! You are kind. And your thoughts and suggestions have helped me. I am getting tested so that I will know before I go to the hospital. And I am staying calm. Thankyou very much.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (22 February 2009):
Suicidal self destructive, pretty much the same thing, and you think you are going to be a fit mother! I disagree with your opinion on termination in this case you are NOT mentally stable or mature enough to bring a child into this world.
I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT as it would be child abuse to you and it.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 February 2009):
Well I hope that you are not pregnant. Do you know about the morning after pill?
If you scream and shout at the therapist then you are not going to look any more sane. Shouting people always look mental.
Why not be calm and mature and explain why you don't think you are depressed. Ask what symptoms you have that she has based her diagnosis on and debate them with her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, YuukiBear +, writes (22 February 2009):
YuukiBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I am no danger to myself. It was the first time I had ever done something like that (And definitely the last). My therapist thinks I am suicidal that's all. Which I am not. And I am proving it to her by not fighting the hospitalization. And if I am pregnant then there is no way in hell that I would terminate it or put my child up for adoption. I think that is just wrong. Also, my parents just said that I am not going till Wednesday or Thursday or so. My friend is getting me a pregnancy test on Tuesday. I should know before I go and if I am then I will tell the stupid therapist that I am and that I refuse to take the drugs. I probably wouldn't take them even if I wasn't pregnant. So yeah. I am NOT a danger to myself. And YES. I was an idiot. And NO I will never give up my baby if I am pregnant. Ok. Well... Just had to clear some things up. Thanks.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 February 2009):
The fact you are getting drunk and having sex with strange boys and risking disease and pregnancy says to me that you do have problems, considering you are so so young.
You can't be selfish just because you "don't want to get in trouble."
If you take those drugs then you could give birth to a horribly disabled child.
Tell your therapist that you could be pregnant.
There is a very good chance that you could be pregnant as you had sex at a very fertile time in your cycle.
Ask yourself why you did such a stupid thing and why you are underage drinking in the first place and putting yourself at such risk. You might want to talk to your therapist about all this.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (21 February 2009):
Firstly you are an IDIOT!
Secondly you have to see your therapist because you are a danger to yourself, which you deny! Hold on a minute, you got drunk and had unprotected sex, and maybe pregnant. Surely that makes you a danger to yourself.
I suggest telling your therapist everything and he can arrange a pregnancy test, and advise you on termination etc.
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