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writes:I feel so left out! All of my friends yes all of them have boyfriends and I don't and I've never had a boyfriend. It's never really bothered me before but it's really starting to affect my self esteem I feel that it has to be something physically wrong with me because guys just don't seem to want a relationship with me. I don't know what to do, what is wrong with me? I feel so useless and unloved.
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reader, miss jane  +, writes (22 February 2009):
love comes when you least expect it thats so true dont concentrate on finding a boyfriend just live your life. i was like you looking for a boyfriend and i could never find one and i thought i was really ugly all the time and then i just went right i wont look for love and i just concentrated on being with my m8s and i had the best time and it turned out one of my best friends fancied me and now im going out with him and its the best dont go looking if its love its find you anyway
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reader, Harree +, writes (22 February 2009):
I often feel like this as well, when i see everyone around me in a relationship and i let it affect me like it has you... when really we shouldn't it's not that theres something 'physically wrong' with you it's that no guy has been worth having your affections yet because if they can't see from the very beggining what a great person you are, they arn't right for you! You will find some one who loves, cares and adores you, it shouldn't happen because everyone else has boyfriends. You should always be yourself and when you finally do find some one who treats you like a princess who you love equally it'll a great relationship because it won't be forced from the result of seeing all your other friends relationships and wanting that... which ultimatly leads to you being far from happy. My biggest aim here is to make you see that your choices and actions should be made for you and no one else so don't let the desperation of wanting a relationship cause you to make rash decsions... and learn to love yourself before seeking the love of another becuase of corse there is nothing physically wrong with you and besides it shouldn't matter to that man that will one day love you for you. Keep Happy x
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reader, jodaii +, writes (22 February 2009):
This has worked for me:
Dont aim to get a boyfriend, just aim to make as many male friends as you can. They dont need to have a physical attraction to you, but over time, if you treat them well, they'll fall in love with YOU, your personality and sence of humour!
hope this helps
Jodaii :) x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 February 2009):
Ask your friends for man advice. They know you better than anyone. It could be that you get nervous around guys and send out massive "GO AWAY" signals with your body language.
Also, where are you going and what are you doing? Do you go out to places where you can meet guys? If not then get out there, join some clubs, try a new sport, volunteer.
If you sit and mope about then that will only make things worse. Take a long hard critical look at the way you put yourself across, and how you go about looking for a guy, and then you might make some progress.
Good Luck!! xx
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