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*tarrymadness
writes:Hi I have a problem - I have a long term boyfriend who used to treat me really badly and he used to make me do things I didn't want to do - and this has affected our relationship, as I don't feel like I can ask him for anything or approach him for anything, because I don't know how he will react. I also don't feel like I can talk to him, because whenever I try to, he either doesn't listen, or he says that I'm talking too much. I also recently found out that I have a condition, which means that every time we have sex, I feel agonising pain afterwards which lasts for several hours and even makes it painful to sit down. This also affects me as it puts me off sex and it completely ruins it for me as I can't enjoy something that causes me pain. I haven't told him about this , as I don't think he would understand/he would criticise me What am I supposed to do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, starrymadness +, writes (22 February 2009):
starrymadness is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help- I will take your advice , and you should consider giving advice to ppl more often, as you give useful answers xx
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reader, vwomen  +, writes (21 February 2009):
 Drop the zero and welcome a hero in your life im sure u treated this person with love and respect and i do believe you deserve that some love and respect,
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): hi,I agree with Gina!! Go to the doctor right away!! Since he makes you do things, and you don't say what, I am concerned that something may be ripped/torn that is causing the pain.Next item on the list: dump him, and be quick about it--it doesn't sound like he will take it well.Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 February 2009):
Well your first mistake is staying with a man who treats you badly and forces you to do things.
By staying with me, you have laid down in front of the door and written WELCOME across your forehead. Now you are here asking us why he's treating you like a door mat.
A person who actually cared about you would not get angry or critisise you.
Find a boyfriend who actually gives a crap about you and all your worries will disappear.
Better still stay single for a while till you have a bit more confidence so you think you are worth more than to be treated like this. You obviously have problems if this is all you think you are worth.
Good Luck!! xx
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