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writes:I have tried to understand and am at a loss. Please help me if you can add any insight. My boyfriend is a wonderful person and seems very loving and compassionate. But... Sometimes he scares me. He will vocalize very loud at strange times. Such as reading e-mail and will very loudly say aough!!!!!!! and then sometimes will express he has a pain and yell aghhh!!! very very loudly when he moves. When asked what is it he will say my foot, then it will be the leg, then the gluts. He also will make very crazy noises when I make him food he enjoys. Such as uhmm, and smack his lips and make jestures of eating. Seems small enough, but after living together over 7 months some things just dont add up. He eats all the chips in the house. Then tell me he did bad. Says he did better eating and his foot or leg feels better. He makes funny faces sometimes I cant understand and I am just unsure how to read these signs. Can anyone help?????? Thanx. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 February 2009):
 I guess it depends on how this appears to an outsider. IT could also be true that you are growing tired of each other and all the little idiosycrancies he always had are magnified and really bothering you.
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reader, didda123  +, writes (21 February 2009):
 Ahhhhh i don't think he has a problem at all he is just thinking aloud to break the silence probably which we all do at times and expecially when something hurts or we get a sharp pain at times oooowh maybe you should try it mmmmm lol.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 February 2009):
To be honest, we all make noises like that. It sounds like he is comfortable around you and is just relaxed and being himself.
Saying ow, when hurt, or making noise when you read an email from a friend is NORMAL.
If you have trouble reading facial expressions then perhaps you have a very very mild form of autism. Or it could be that you have just been brought up to be very quiet around the house, so do not feel comfortable vocalising your feelings out loud.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09 +, writes (21 February 2009):
At first it sounds like tourettes syndrome. However from the people I have known with it, and the little bit I know about it, TS doesn't come on from something that has been done.
TS is just a tick, a bark, a click, and severe severe cases cuss. It happens on its own, with no way to really control it. You would notice it more often than when he hurts himself.
A screw lose might be extreme. Although you should be careful this situation sounds odd! It could be him wanting attention or trying to get a rise out of you. Depending on how he grew up you could easily determine if it is for attention.
I know I would have gone crazy by now! So if you truly love him and want to be with him, you need to talk to him. Tell him his behavior worries you and you want to know why he does what he does. If he can't tell you, you might consider talking to a doctor with him.
If there is something wrong, you should try to help until it becomes unsafe for you. Don't let this stop you from having a good life. If you can't handle it, then go somewhere that you can get on with your life. Don't let anyone hold you back. I don't know if I helped but I hope I did!
Good luck and let me know what comes of this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): Hmmm - very worrying, I'd agree. Could have a minor screw loose. No obvious anser though. Shame you didn't know him better before moving in together. I'd consider moving back out again, not 'cos he may be dangerous (he may be!) but his prolonged behaviour would drive me nuts.Good luck.
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