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41-50,
*eanne S
writes:I met the love of my life in the summer of 2007, we got together pretty quickly and everyday has felt like I am the most special woman in the world. When we got to together, my partner told me he had seperated from his wife and they have a little boy together.Just before christmas 2008 his ex runs off with their child and we have been looking for him ever since til last week. His ex rang to say that she was sorry and she wanted him back, he said no to that and told her he was happy but since that moment, things have changed with us. she rings and txts him all the time saying I am not good enough for him and he should go back to her and he doesnt tell me what she is saying to him when hes away from me and i never know what he is replying to her.He tells me he loves me and he cares about her as she had his son but he has just forgiven her for running away with his son and I am left feeling empty, we cant laugh or joke like we used to and I feel like i'm walking on egg shells in case i upset him and he goes back to her. Is this all in my head, am i being paranoid or should he tell her that he is only interested in their son but his life is with me now???I guess i just need to know if i am being unreasonable, I feel empty, sick and worried all the time and feel like i cannot cope with 3 of us being in this relationship. please help me
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 February 2009):
You are not being unreasonable. You need to sit him down and tell him that you need to know where you stand.
I know he probably thinks that by leading her on a bit he is keeping her onside so he can see his son but that is not true.
He has to tell her that he is not going to be with her but wants to sort out regular visits so he can see his child.
You need to stand up for yourself. It's not healthy for you to be in this relationship but constantly in fear that it's going to end any minute.
Tell him that you will never EVER come between him and his child but that he needs to be clear on which woman he wants in his life and tell the other one that it is over.
Good Luck!! xx
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