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*amieanderson
writes:Got a bit of a dilemma.Kieran wants to meet with me. We started talking about 3 months ago having gone over a year with no contact. Now ordinarily I'd be pretty laid back about this kind of thing, but in the past 2 weeks he's broken up with his girlfriend and had to move out of his place (they were together a year, lived together for 2 months). He's had to move in with his mate Dan, who i don't talk to anymore.Here is our history for those of you who haven't seen my page: Kieran and i were together for 2 years. We were a little on-off at times but we were happy. I lost my virginity to him after 6 months and we had a very active, if not always satisfying sex life. I found out he was bisexual early on and didn't mind, but when he started seeing guys behind my back we started to fall apart(One of these guys was my best friend Ella's boyfriend Cal, who later admitted to be gay after 2 years with her). During this 6 month breakdown, we experienced a 3 person relationship with his best friend Dan. Eventually the final straw came when he slept with a girl. This was the kick i needed to move on.When we broke up it was on pretty good terms until i drunkenly called him and told him i hated him and all that rubbish. I apologized, he accepted and now he wants to see me.So with such a messy background as this should i steer way clear? There is no attraction there on my part anymore. However harsh it is I've realised i never really fancied him that much- he loved me and that was enough. Now I'm with a man who loves me and who i love and fancy more than anything. He's no threat to Alex and I, but I'm not sure if i should meet with him. We were good friends before, and when he needs someone i feel like i owe it to him to be there to help him- he would do the same for me. But if i agree, should i go for a drink with him? Get some dinner, go for a coffee, invite him round, go to see him (although Dan may make things difficult)? Any thoughts on what i should do?Please help!Jamie XxX
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 February 2009):
Quite honestly, there is a very good chance that he is coming back to you for rebound sex.
Guys often look to ex girlfriends for this kind of thing so be very very careful.
The fact you are here asking us says to me that you have doubts about meeting him. If you think in any way that you are going to get hurt by seeing him again, especially if you run the risk of sleeping with him and just being a big boost to his ego for a week or so until he gets over his ex and then wants rid of you again, then DO NOT meet him.
Good Luck!! xx
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