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writes:Hiya, I'm having a problem with this amazing girl who I have been intrested in since December but she, for some reason wants more time even though she has said that we will be together. She says she's intrested in me but she keeps stalling. Should I just give up? or should I talk about it with her (if so what should I say)? or should I give it more time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 March 2009):
She's probably a bit scared, and there is being supportive etc etc etc and then there comes a point where you just have to kick the bay bird out the nest and force it to fly.
Tell her that you don't think she'll ever be ready and you are really sorry about that but you have to try and get over you as it's hurting too much now. Tell her that if she changes her mind you'll be the best boyfriend that she'll ever have but you don't think that will happen.
Then don't speak to her for a couple of days.
If it's going to happen then she'll get in touch, if it's not then at least you will know and can find a girl who says what she means rather than dithering.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, bailey09  +, writes (25 March 2009):
Hi Davo,
Well, I just wanted to say that maybe she is stalling because there might be some other things she is dealing with.... maybe even some issues about the viability of this relationship. I would give her more time, but be cautious that you are not the only one investing in the relationship-- the one keeping her holding on. Let her work for it too. 3 Months is not that long, so enjoy continuing to get to know her and give her a bit of time. I see that you are in 16-17 age range. She is probably your age. When I was in high school I was a nervous nellie around boys- maybe she is just nervous.
good luck!
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