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writes:I'm 18, and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I've had a history of cheating on him, but he always forgave me. Lately I had been having different feelings about him and havnt been feeling the same about him. There was no spark anymore and i never wanted to do anything physical with him anymore. Everything just felt dull. I ended up cheating on him again with my ex, but he has no idea. then last week i was really drunk and made out with someone, and he found out about it, so it made it sort of easy to break it off then, it was mutual. but it's been two days now, and i am feeling so sad. I'm starting to remember all the times we have together and how much i love being with him. The night we broke up, my really good friend made out with him, and i can't seem to get over that. I can't believe she would do that to me, but she claims that she was too drunk to think clearly. OMG what do i do!? help me ! do i forgive her? It's so messed up? and how do i get over my ex? did i make a mistake?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): you don't want him yet you cannot let someone else have him. talk about self centred. you did not care enough for him while you cheated on numerous occasions on him. he may have hooked up with this girl out of spite/loneliness/hut and pain, perhaps it didn't mean anything t him. he just wanted to forget you.
you can do the honorable thing and let him walk away from you. for good. he deserves better. maybe when you finally grow up and want to be in a adult relationship (without the cheating and deceit) a normal relationship will result. for now you are just crying for something that you don't have.
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reader, Kayla_112005 +, writes (25 March 2009):
Wow you obviously aren't the committed type. You really need to check your self before someone ends up hurting you. Thats what karma is!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): did you make a mistake?????you mean except for cheating on him with half of the globe's male population?you cheated on him repeatedly,you broke the por guy's heart and he just reached the point where he had enough.i don't think he'll take you back,i'm sorry but it appears it's too late.now that you lost him you think you have feelings for him but i think it's just because he's over you and you don't like that.if you really loved him,you would've never treated him this way.and he and your friend did nothing wrong.you had already broken up when they kissed.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I hate to point fingers, but you also got drunk at parties and cheated on him, so why are you so mad at her? It's the pot calling the kettle black.
Ever hear the expression "wouldn't know a good thing if it was right in front of you"? Well, he was a good thing, and you had him, and unfortunately you took all his patience and good nature, and I think he jsut doesn't have anythign left to give you.
Do everyone a favor and let him go. And hopefully you have learned that cheating is never the answer. If you're going to cheat on someone, just break up with them because obviously they aren't satisfying all of your needs.
And forgive your friend. You aren't in much of a position to place blame.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 March 2009):
 You obviously are uninterested or incapable of having a committed relationship so why bother trying to have one? At least at this point in time. Oh and forgive your friend, I don't think she did anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Yes you made a mistake, you cheated on him several times and instead of just letting him go then, you drug him along and continued to let him down. It's karma, I don't blame him kissing your best friend. And you will learn in life that there are very few people in this world you can trust, never trust your friends too much. I'd say leave him alone. I think you've hurt him enough, your obviously too comfortable with cheating on him. But now you know how it feels to be the one that gets cheated on so take this pain in and feel it and later when you have learned something find someone else that you can start over with the RIGHT way. Don't be a cheater, it's so pathetic and selfish, either dump the person and have your flings or be loyal and honest! When you love someone you cannot intentionally hurt them, you don't love this boy.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 March 2009):
You treated him like crap and she has had to watch you wipe your feet all over your relationship and then listen when you complained that you weren't happy.
She probably just felt sorry for the poor guy! Perhaps she was a bit jealous that you could have a boyfriend to use and abuse and she couldn't find anyone even though she'd treat them right.
You get over your ex by knowing that when you care about someone, you do not cheat on them. Think of all those people you cheated with. You could forget about your boyfriend then, to remember that feeling and move on. Let him have someone who will treat him properly.
As for your friend, she was drunk and you'd split up with him. So as she's apologised, just forget it.
Good Luck!! xx
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