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writes:Sigh...well here it goes...This girl at my school asked me if I liked her while we were txting and I said ya cuz I really do! Anyways before I even asked her out she told me she just wants to be friends...That was like a month ago and now she complitly ignores me. I asked why she didn't wana even be friends and she said it'll be akward or somethin...Anyways, I just wana be her friend now (Well still like her but I know I ain't got a chance). Is there anyways to maybe at least have a friendship? I don't know if I should just wait awhile and then start kinda talkin to her casualy or just leave her be or...??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Why does she think your annoying? have you been trying to get her attention too much?
At least your talking and having a bit of a convo, thats a good start. What do her friends say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): well i talked to her and said even tho she thinks im annoying and stuff if she wanted to just have a conversation and so now i can talk to her with out getting a weird look!
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reader, Griffo +, writes (24 March 2009):
There's really no way unfortunatley. So its better and far easier to move on.
Communication is the key to all relationships, and she's making the effort to cut it short or cut it completley. Therefore she does not want to be your friend. Or she's playing silly games that could eventually get her into an obsession session comming from you.
On the other hand if you want to get technical about it she is doing one of a few things but it will be very difficult to fugure it out which one it exactly is. You are young so take the following lightly dont think too much of it:
1)
Firstly, she may be playing hard to get so the more you chase her the more she'll give you the cold shoulder (the funny thing with us guys, we chase harder the more they run, and this can eventually cause an obsession most of the time they do not realise they do this to us). If you ever lose your cool and blast her because she's not talking or you upset her in anyway "you lose" her FOREVER - because no girl wants to be with a guy who loses his cool and gets upset - this also gives her a reason NOT to date you, a malor turn off for her (she wants someone who can handle it mentally and emotionally). If you chase her in moderation and just hang back there and be her friend when she comes to YOU only, then, you may have a chance someday with her. Just don't ever pressure her.
or;
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when she originally contacted you and said she liked you its likley, yes, she did. But you may have done something really stupid or dumb that made her think twice about you... To over come this you'll need to somehow prove that your not that type of person. So do something really smart. You also need to know what you did in the first place to be able to work on it. Id ask one of her friends if you did anything wrong and they will likley tell you. IMPORTANT: Being smart does not mean playing games back being smart means mature, intelligent being a good strong and tough team mate.
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3)
She has found another love interest before you both had the chance to start up.
or;
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She simply does not like you at all. She did it as a joke with her friends to see what your reaction was like. Maybe she has an older sister because thay know us guys are like a shotgun and they are the girls with the itchy trigger fingers wanting to fire us off. again of you lose your cool and get angry, you lose her forever.
Conclusion:
Id ask one of her friends in a quiet place and what ever she says take it on the shoulders and then be smart, use your brain and impress her with your intellegence or passion (passion: meaning your future plans and ambitions in life) not your mouth or bullshit talk. Be clear.
So just hang in there, be with your mates and maybe someday she'll notice what your doing and how successfull your becomming and what potential you really do have.
Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 March 2009):
You just have to leave her be.
She knows you like her so she knows she will never be able to be a good friend to you without leading you on, or having you want her all the time.
She is a smart girl and knows being close to you will hurt you.
Good Luck!! xx
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