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writes:Men:- Why do some guys say one thing in a text and do the opposite in real life? - Why can't men just be straight with us women? Do men always mean what they say in a text or do they just hide behind the words?
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reader, Share Bear +, writes (24 March 2009):
 Exactly- very good answers from Emily- you can't generalise, and with this little information, the only answers we could give would state the obvious or offer up cliches. Simply though, he finds it harder to lie to your face- whatever his reasons. And I'm quite sure that there have been women guilty of the same at one time or another.
Instead of asking this question of strangers, YOU should ask HIM about this face to face.
May I propose a new question; 'Why do people generalise against the opposite gender when having a specific issue with their specific partner?'
Might as well start talking about yourself in the third person to avoid the reality of your relationship. Ahh, escapism...
If you really can't trust that everyone is different, then there really are many more (very similar!) fish in the sea out there for you!
Happy Fishing!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 March 2009):
Again, don't generalise.
"Men" don't do it. YOUR ONE SINGLE bloke does it and he probably does it because he's a knob.
Maybe his mummy didn't love him enough, or maybe too much.
I bet he has some kind of excuse.
Anyway, just accept to picked a bad one, and move on to find someone better.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Emily! - Easier said than done though! - but why do men do it?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 March 2009):
Ok, so we have cut past the massive generalisations now.
We are not talking about all men, are we?
Your real question is:
"My man is really lovely in texts but I know he's messing about with his ex."
The answer is, texts are easy and he's probably sending the same thing to his ex as well. If he's lying and messing around then dump him and block his number.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe hasn't done much really .. its just I know his ex is still on the scene even though he claims she isn't (in his text messages of course!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): its ok we are friends just star or starfish is fine lol...
I understand - have this petty hate of being lumped in the same group as fools.....
i suspect its because he is afraid to tell you face to face so he can lie in a text. Does he do the same when he phones? I suspect not. easy to lie where he can ignore the reponse...
what has he done? if its things like i am just getting fish and chips then three hours later he comes in reaking
of chanel then thats bad.
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry Mr Starfish - Its just I am a bit bitter as I know my "man" is fooling me around - yet he never admits it and his texts are always so lovey dovey!!
- Why can't a bloke just tell you when he is messing with you? - Are some men afraid of losing out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): us women? speak for yourself dear.
i had to tell you but it happens to men too... (i know its a shock)
but to answer questions:
1) who knows - maybe he got drunk or was chasing spiders or something.
2) because then you would be forced to tell the secret of hopscotch.
3) Hmm i text things like Hello - that means hello, or i am late meaning i am late....etc. but i am hiding, especially in the hello bit...
maybe if you gave a bit more information....
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): Its easy to say things by text- you don't have to look at the other person and see if they are being sincere or not. It's really hiding behind words. Best way to communicate is face to face and if someone is texting you instead of wanting to be with you, not a good sign.
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