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writes:Hi, i just need a bit of advice so if anyone can offer some that would be great?Been with my boyfriend 3 years, love him, thing is we had history we went together for 6 months, broke up for a year then got back together been back together three years now. The thing is in our year break i had such a great time, don't get me wrong he finished me unexpectedly and i was gutted for a few months but after that i spent loads of time with my friends and had a really good time! When we were together the first time we did nothing but argue, he cheated on me and basically it was a blessing that we broke up. However since we got back together hes totally changed! He hasnt cheated on me since n he spoils me rotten. Most people would dream of being in our relationship, the thing is im not who i used to be i get jealous when he adds girls on facebook or when he talks to girls on a night out and thats not who i am, i dont want to be that type of girl, also even though i quite often see my friends at uni n go out for meals etc i still dont seem to have the same fun, i dont go out clubbing with them very often but all of my friends bar one have boyfriends so dont go out very often. Were also planning on going on a clubbing girls holiday this year as we have done for the last few years but my bf isnt happy about it even though im going away with him too. Me and my bf have been arguin quite abit over the last few months, just over little things and ive told him, im not completely happy but all he ever says is we will fix it but nothing changes. Ive got a lot of uni work at the minute and have just started a new part time job so im a bit stressed. I spose what i want to know is whats wrong with me? Am i meant to be with my bf or am i not? Whats causing my unhappyness and how can i change?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 March 2009):
Why isn't he happy you are going on holiday? Is it that he doesn't trust you?
Also, as you have found, SAYING that he's going to fix something doesn't actually do anything.
I think deep down you want to split up with him and you are just looking for someone to tell you to do it because you don't really have an excuse to do it yourself.
You don't need an excuse. If you are not happy then split up with him. Get on with your uni work and go on holiday with your friends.
It's your choice what you do in life, so make a decision and deal with it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (25 March 2009):
Well, it's one thing to be academic, and another to have an "academia-friendly boyfriend..."
Don't say I didn't tell you so!...
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