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writes:I was recently told by my 17-year-old son's college lecturer that he's been getting poor grades. I asked why, and all he said was "your son's more interested in pursuing a vendetta than his grades".I confronted my son, and asked him what this was all about but he refused to discuss it with me. He said "You f***ing wouldn't understand!"He wouldn't discuss it with his dad either.I'm worried for both his safety and his academic records - he used to be a good kid, getting high grades.Now he's been reported as skipping college and becoming more interested in pursuing this vendetta.What it's about I don't know, but it's stressing me and my husband out, and we're at our wits end.Please help us.Sandra Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): It's not clear from your question, but I presume that he's living with you. If that's the case, then he's living under your rules. And I would presume that your rules include getting along with the school authorities. So be a parent, and don't put up with adolescent nonsense, including his use of profanity to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I was exactly the same all kids go through a bad stage, He may have things on his mind that he proberly dont want to tell his mum and dad about, he may feel embarresed, He may be mixing with the worng crowd but as a kid who went through exactly the same i say lay of him dont argue with him about it it will just make him worse leave him to sort things out and maybe when he feels he can he will proberly come and talk to you, its kids being kids we all do it, and eventually if everyone stops nagging at him he will come around at the minute he proberly feels like the worlds on his shoulders and the teachers are on his case 24/7 let him do it his way Good Luck x x
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I believe you should have asked some question to his teacher. You should ask his teacher were he heard these rumors from. Ask him all what he knows about this vendetta.
I am not sure what his teacher means by saying that your son prefares to pursue his vendetta than his grades. Take care!.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Take him to a counselor for youth and families.
Best case, he is just feeling socially awkward at school and his thought process isn't prioritizing what is really important (school over a grudge).
Worst case, this turns out to be the start of anti-social behavior, possibly paranoid schizophrenia. Doubtful, but he is close to the age that these problems begin to surface.
Take him to a therapist who can sit down and talk to him without you and your husband there. They can better assess and refer him.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 March 2009):
Vendetta is a very odd word to use.
Why would the college lecturer tell you something so vague in such dramatic prose?
Either way, leave him to it. It's his own life.
Good Luck!! xx
PS. If this is the resident dearcupid faker then this one isn't great. Your others were far better. This sounds like something of an American Soap opera. Try harder next time, it makes you easier to spot, but it's more amusing to us mods.
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