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writes:My boyfriend and I had a great 4 month relationship, he wanted me to move in, even talked marriage. But then this happened.. 1 year before I met him, I had great trauma - bad abusive bf (left after 3 months) but a man from a different state befriended me - just friends - then my father died suddenly and my best friend died. I was a basket case. This so called friend of my flew to see me, did not come to funeral, but showed up w/ an engagement ring at 11pm. I had been drinking did not want to hurt his feelings. Later told him no and he said keep the ring which now I know he only hoped my keeping it would change my mind. Note this was over a year before current bf. Staulker said throw it away. Well anyway life goes on and I meet this great guy everything is perfect but then the other guy becomes a staukler since he sees me happy with someone - police involved etc. Staulker even takes a 2nd home here. He is now doing it to another woman. He then says it is all about the ring. My current bf (almost 1 year) now thinks I lied to him. But I never did. As much as he tries he cant let go saying I was not honest. Before I was with him my friends Knew about the staulker, I even had to hide at their house. My stupdiity was not to get the police involved then. But now all has passed Except this wonderful man can not seem to forget this and thinks that I lied about this ring, perhaps thinking Im a gold digger or I dont know. I know he loves me and I love him and this incident w a wierdo staulker is ruining our relationship. I know this is complicated but what can I do? I hate4 to loose this man but he is extremely old fashioned. Can I help him. This is so sad to me because he loves me.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 March 2009):
Then you just have to talk to him and find out what the hell is going on in that brain of his.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I did give the ring back 8 months ago.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 March 2009):
Have you offered to post the ring back to this guy who stalked you?
He would have no way of knowing where it came from so you would be safe but your boyfriend might get over this silly complex of his.
You have to talk to him and find out what his problem is. Find out why he thinks you lied and what he thinks the truth is so you can put him straight.
You can't get to the bottom of this till you know what is in his head so his him down and calmly say you want to get to the bottom of this because you can't move forward with this relationship till it's sorted out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ~AgonyAuntLaure~ +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Do you love him? If yes then talk to him and tell him the truth and if you are not sure if you can put up with it then leave him. You want a relationship to be forever and truthful not have him not believe you when something goes wrong.
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