How can I help my hypochondriac boyfriend?
Q. how do i cope? how do i cope my boyfriend is a hypochondriac. For example he has a bump on his head... he thinks its a tumor. He has a cyst in his cheek ... he thinks its a tumor. He has a bowel problem and thought he had cancer. When i g...
A. 3 September 2008: Well that might be the cause of his problems but it's not an excuse to let them continue.
Lots of people's grandparents die. It's part of life.
Tell him to suck it up or you are off.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't french kiss me! He says it leads to sex.
Q. My boyfriend says the reason he won't french kiss me is because it always leads to sex and he has no desire for sex. He has ED. but I think french kissing is not just for sex. We've only been together 2 months and I 'm not ready for sex but I am ...
A. 30 August 2008: Hmmm, well I think you are going to have to be a bit less subtle and force him to talk about this.
It is not normal to have not snogged your boyfriend. At the moment he is basically treating you as his sister or best friend!
Try to kiss h... (read in full...)
Should I stop masturbating?
Q. Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Tell her to stop having periods. Every month she's throwing away a baby when it could have lived.
Why would you have told her you are masturbating? Keep it to yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He has turned from Prince Charming to a big jerk. What should I do about this
Q. I am a single mother of 3 and I met a guy who seemed very sweet and loving towards my children. He was a complete gentlemen and took me out and treated me like a princess. Well, 2 months have gone by and he has become a total jerk. He made my ...
A. 30 August 2008: So he knows how to manipulate you and from the sound of it, it's not difficult.
I'll do something nice for you and your kids now and tell you to dump him.... DUMP HIM!!
There. But don't feel pressured to go out with me just because I was ni... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't french kiss me! He says it leads to sex.
Q. My boyfriend says the reason he won't french kiss me is because it always leads to sex and he has no desire for sex. He has ED. but I think french kissing is not just for sex. We've only been together 2 months and I 'm not ready for sex but I am ...
A. 30 August 2008: You could just tell him that you promise it won't lead to sex because you are on your period but just want to be kissed.
I love kissing my husband, but it doesn't always lead to sex because half the time we are out or cooking dinner when we kiss.... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend was not a virgin when I had sex with her and I don't know what to do!
Q. my girlfriend was having two boy friends at her past . i think she must have sex wih them because when i had sex with her there was no bleeding and my penis got easily entered her vagina and i hav heared that for the first time sex its just ...
A. 29 August 2008: I didn't bleed my first time and if she was turned on enough and you had done foreplay previously then it was probably just that she was relaxed with you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think there's something wrong with me because I've never had a boyfriend!
Q. I seriously think something wrong with me because am 21 and never had a boyfriend abd I know am not an ugly girl. Im confident about the way I look but at the same time I do find guys that talk to me but they are not my type usually they are ghetto ...
A. 29 August 2008: Well how many guys who are your type do you meet?
If you aren't meeting many of them then you may not get to know them enough for them to like you.
Is style really that important? Can you not be with someone who likes different clothing to you?... (read in full...)
When I masturbate the day I have sex, I have erection problems. Is this bizarre?
Q. does masterbation normally make a man not be able to get erect? i ask this because when i masterbate every day and have sex i cant seem to keep it up but when i dont masterbate a tall it seems to be fine infact its a lot harder so im not sure if i ...
A. 29 August 2008: When I run a marathon then I find it really hard to go for my nightly job. But when I don't run a marathon I seem to be able to job much better.
You are just a once a day guy, nothing wrong with it - you just have a limited suply of sperm a... (read in full...)
I feel he has taken her away from us! What can I do?
Q. i know this isnt really a relationship problem, but it kinda is.. Ever since my father passed away in feb of 2006 me and my mum have become very close, i was 13 and had no brothers or sisters but my mum was 34 and pregnant. i think because my dad w...
A. 29 August 2008: She is being insensitive but I don't think she's doing it on purpose, just because she's in this big romance.
I think you need to do something to grab her attention. Either write her a letter if you think that would help telling her exactly ... (read in full...)
Why do I always pee after sex?
Q. I pee every after sex. What about you gals? Is it normal? Please help me to understand why i pee after sex. Thanks! ...
A. 29 August 2008: Because a giant lump has been rubbing against your urethra (where the pee comes out) and bumping your bladder from the inside.
Of course that is going to make you want to pee.
make sure you go before hand if it bothers you.
Good Luck!! xx ... (read in full...)
I have a new boyfriend, who is great, but I keep thinking about my ex, who was always fighting with me and making me cry, but I am confused about who I should be with, please help?
Q. okay well i had a boyfriend in highschool for over three years. we were so happy at the beginning of our relationship. things went downhill quickly and we were always fighting and i was always crying. i tried talking to other guys so i could move on ...
A. 29 August 2008: I think you should make a clean break from your current boyfriend and tell him you don't want a long distance relationship. It's not fair that you are just with him because he's nice and he buys you things. That is using him, even if you care about ... (read in full...)
What romantic things can we get up to now that neither of us have our own place where we live alone?
Q. This is mainly addressed to folk who have been at university. I'm about to start at university in September after taking a year out. I've got my accomodation sorted staying in halls of residence in a pretty nice room with an ensuite bathroom and a ...
A. 29 August 2008: You can go out?
There are so many places you can go to on the cheap, like restaurants and the cinema. You can date him!
Plus the fact if you are going to be starting uni then I really don't think you are going to have enough free time to wor... (read in full...)
My love life is non existant since my ex and I split up! Any suggestions?
Q. please please read this!! I need help. oh god, i'm in a mess. me and my ex split up back in february of this year after 2yrs of a very on/off relationship. i always ended it, he was always really upset, but he always won me back. my family...
A. 29 August 2008: Tell him you can't see him again any more. You have to hurt him a bit now rather than a lot later on. It's unfair just to use him because you are feeling lonely and know he will respond.
As for getting a new boyfriend, how often do you get in a... (read in full...)
Did he take advantage of me?!
Q. I was making out with my boyfriend tonight and he decided to take things further by putting his hands up my top while he lay on top of me kissing. I kept pulling his hand out of my top but he just kept going back to sneaking up my top! I kept ...
A. 29 August 2008: Yeah, this is the third time he's said he's sorry and won't do it again.
When he does be sure to remember that we told you he would and then dump him and cut contact straight away. I hope he doesn't go too far and you don't get raped.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Is my mom's friend acting strange or am I reading into things?
Q. My mom has a guy friend Jeff (not real name) and hes nice and all but something seems strange about him.....when im home alone he'll call and ask what im doing for no reson and he always ask me "is any one there with you?!" then he'll tell/ask "ok ...
A. 29 August 2008: I'm so glad this weirdo is out of your life.
I'm glad your big brother and mum took your side immediately and protected you.
Big brothers are useful sometimes.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
The one night stand that produced a daughter will not recognise or support her.
Q. hi i had a 1 night stand which resulted in a pregnancy my ex partner knows its not his and it is the 1 night stands im trying to get the 1 night stand to recognise his daughter but he is not forthcoming and is not financially supporting her what ...
A. 29 August 2008: Go to the CSA. They are not fantastic but they do help a little bit.
You may have to pay to get a paternity test done but it doesn't cost too much nowadays.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 29 August 2008: Hey hun, sorry to tell you this but many people use hun and babe all the time. If she called him her special snookie bear then it would be different, but they are pretty generic terms.
As for his feelings towards her, yes, he might be in love wit... (read in full...)
My dad died and I can't help but hate mum's new boyfriend even though he's a nice man!
Q. My dad died before christmas. My mum and dads relationship before wasnt very good, and my mum has moved on and has found someone else. My mother is now 5 months pregnant. I already have 3 other siblings under the age of 5, and they have all star...
A. 29 August 2008: I think what you are feeling is perfectly natural.
But think of it this way. Your little brothers and sister NEED a dad at their age, and this guy has taken them on. That's great, but it doesn't mean he is trying to BE their real dad. He's jus... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why he is avoiding me! It's dissapointing!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in June. I loved him so much and he loved me and I think we broke up over a misunderstanding - it was a stressful time for the both of us and a lot of miscommunication and hurt feelings. I was the first to hurt hi...
A. 28 August 2008: He could be on holiday and have his phone off. He could be in a coma.
It's only been 4 days. Send him an email or some other form or communication. Either that or just go round to his house and drop it off.
There are plenty of reasons why some... (read in full...)
Would people perseive me as curvy or fat?
Q. heyx i am nearly 16 years old, 5ft 3 and weigh about 9 stone do you think this is an ok weight or do i need to lose some? I have 34E boobs (and really dnt want to lose them) and am size 10-12 in jeans would people percieve this as curvy or...
A. 28 August 2008: http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/body_weight/healthy_weight/chart.htm
Have a look and check if you are in the healthy range. If you are then you are curvy. If you are fat then you are fat.
If you are 10 to 12 in jeans I very much doubt ... (read in full...)
Would I loose weight if I do this?
Q. heyx i was just wonderin would i lose weight if i burn evrythin i eat. for example, any meal i eat, like 400 cals, i walk for an hour and burn that 400 would i lose weight by doin that or not? I eat alot, but exersise alot too so if i eat li...
A. 28 August 2008: It really is as simple as it sounds.
If you take in more calories than you burn off you'll put on weight.
If you take in the same amount you burn off then you will stay the same.
If you burn off more than you are taking in then you will ... (read in full...)
I've been having pains near my stomach and it's starting to worry me.
Q. hi, for the past couple of days, i have been having pains in my stomouch near the my hip bone when i eat it onli feels like a pin pocking me, but im gettin worried, because my friend said it could be my appendix? please could be able to tell me what ...
A. 28 August 2008: It could be an appendix, it could be ovulation.
Best see a doctor though as a burst appendix is NOT nice, it's a 999 emergency trip into surgery.
Call NHS Direct on 0845 46 47. The number looks too short but it works.
It's 24 hours so call... (read in full...)
How to observe my hymen? Confused!
Q. Hi all, I am a 2 virgin and about to get married soon. The problem is, I cannot find my vaginal opening! When I use a mirror to find it, I can see only a pink membrane - maybe the hymen. I'm sure my hymen is not completely closed since my menstru...
A. 28 August 2008: Well your vagina is not like an open tube, it is not a cave like your mouth and is tight shut which is why you can't see a hole.
I have no idea what a hymen looks like and I am not even sure if it can be seen if you are not a doctor. It does hav... (read in full...)
I've been told that my colleague I was dating answered to personal questions about us at the office and encouraged the banter. I'm so hurt now!
Q. Another day another problem thats how my life seems at the moment....was seeing a guy at work and now found out he has been letting guys take the piss out of me...lauging when they was saying to him...she loves you she wants to have your ...
A. 28 August 2008: Don't see him again.
Tell him you don't want to go out with a pathetic sheep. Tell him you want a boyfriend who will stand up for you and that is obviously not him.
If he's any good then he'll make it up to you and promise never to let any... (read in full...)
I don't get the popularity of the doggy style position! Care to shed some light?
Q. Hi, I don't know if this is in the right section What makes doggy style so enjoyable for people? Me and my boyfriend have tried it a few times, I personally don't like it because I find it too impersonal and it doesn't do anything for me...
A. 28 August 2008: I hate it but it seems to be the "in thing."
I think it's a bit disrespectuful if you don't want to even see her face, only her arse. But there is quite a modern trend to disrespect woman / bee-atches so that might be the point.
Don't do it i... (read in full...)
Was this a 'sex on the first date' scenario? We knew each other online for months beforehand!
Q. Say you're chatting with someone online for 3 months (webcam/phone aswell), all the while getting closer and closer, you know theres something there....theres a real spark, you have really enjoyed getting to know each other and decide its time to ...
A. 28 August 2008: Well he stayed with you so it doesn't matter.
I would personally not have sex the first time you meet ANYONE no matter if you've been chatting for years.
I would advise in general that you have to give out the physical stuff slowly, just so ... (read in full...)
This liar at work keeps putting the blame on me! How do I stand up to her?
Q. One of my colleagues at work is a persistant and convincing liar and constantly puts the wrap for things that go wrong on me. I am not very good at confrontation and i can feel my nerves going and heart racing when this is happening, the manager is ...
A. 28 August 2008: Talk to your boss and say that you are unhappy that things keep being made to look your fault. DON'T make any accusations but tell her how the stress is making you ill because you are not standing up for yourself.
Agree that you will write do... (read in full...)
How do I convince my sister to stop wearing this bikini?
Q. My cute younger sister (she's 16) hangs around the public pool wearing a thong bikini. From behind, it looks as though she is totally naked. The boys there gather around her, many whispering, all staring, some spreading the word. If I ask her to ...
A. 28 August 2008: Tell her that you've seen photos of her online labeled "Slut" and lots of old men were commenting on it and asking for more details and what school she goes to. You can always find a picture site like 4chan and tell her it's been taken down but it ... (read in full...)
She's left me for a woman twice her age, an alcoholic and drug user, I've never felt so humiliated... help!
Q. Me and my ex always had a volatile relationship, for nearly 3 years we were on an emotional rollercoaster. Sometimes things were really really good, sometimes things were really really bad. About 3 months ago she met some people and started hang...
A. 28 August 2008: Oh sweetie, it sounds like your girfriend has some serious problems and I don't think you can help her. She sounds like she needs that drama and pain in her life because she's running away from confronting her real issue. When things were a ... (read in full...)
How can I help my hypochondriac boyfriend?
Q. how do i cope? how do i cope my boyfriend is a hypochondriac. For example he has a bump on his head... he thinks its a tumor. He has a cyst in his cheek ... he thinks its a tumor. He has a bowel problem and thought he had cancer. When i g...
A. 28 August 2008: I think he needs to get some help. There are plenty of hypochondriac help websites online, or he could speak to a councillor.
The thing is that you have to be tough with him or you are just helping him to cement his pattern of behaviour. Tell him... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's been nasty and treating me like dirt lately!
Q. me and my boyfreind have been together 2 years in october but lately hes been nasty and treatin me like dirt he thinks he can walk all over me i thought it was just in my head and shurgged it off but my friend say i dont know why i put up with it he ...
A. 28 August 2008: When he's drunk he's talking crap to get into your pants.
Or he's just keeping you hanging on with crumbs of affection. Women who's boyfriends beat them to the point where they are in hospital always say that their man "can be soooooooo lovely s... (read in full...)
I have a stalker and I need some advice on how to avoid him!
Q. I have a stalker. I am not making this up. For about six months now I have noticed him. I work in the building where he lives, and I never noticed him at first, until he almost knocked me down. Then after that I kept on seeing him. He doesn’t ...
A. 27 August 2008: I know it must be really annoying, but this guy isn't actually doing anything other than trying to be where you are.
And you say yourself that you have to walk past his house all the time so not all the times when you see him are going to be his f... (read in full...)
He wants "a bit of fun" now and then but I've never interacted with a bloke before and am worried it shows!
Q. Ok, I am imterested in this guy at work who has told me he just wants a bit of fun now and again, the problem is I have never had any interaction with a bloke and I don't want him to know, how can I become more confident or come across more ...
A. 27 August 2008: If you have never had sex then DO NOT go out with this guy.
You don't have the experience or confidence to control your feelings. You'll get very very hurt by him when he treats you badly. Because he is going to treat you like a casual mate and... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find a girl, please help!
Q. ive always had trouble with girls for as long as i can remember. i have no social problems, but everytime i talk to a girl or anything, it just never works. i dont see anything i can be doing wrong, the girl just never likes me. im starting to think ...
A. 27 August 2008: Have you got any female friends? Get them to honestly critique your chat up tecnique, your appearence, and your social skills. If not then ask a really close male friend.
It could be something that you are doing that you are not even aware of... (read in full...)
I have 4 children but want more, my hubby's done a vasectomy, please help me accept this, and my saddness?
Q. I have 4 children and in my heart I still want more. My husband had a vasectomy nearly 2 years ago as he doesn't want any more. I haven't been able to get past this and our relationship is about to end. Can anyone help me find a way to accept and be ...
A. 27 August 2008: Well babies are going to grow up and turn out like your children. What is wrong with being a mother to the ones you already have?
Get more involved in their lives and try to accept that the time of hourly feeds and smelly nappies has gone, bu... (read in full...)
She doesn't love me any more and she's doesn't even feel guilty about her behavior! How do I get revenge?
Q. This is a bit of a lengthy story, but I think the context of it all is important. My girlfriend and I just broke up this last Sunday. We've been living together for over a year and a half and things were great until about 2 months ago... I ha...
A. 27 August 2008: You say you "feel" like you can't get out... that suggests to me that you could do it even if it meant finding a friend with a sofa bed. Tell her that you'll work out bills owed till tomorrow and then be back for you stuff as soon as you have a new ... (read in full...)
Not really physically attracted to him anymore!! Help!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my bf now for about 5 years. We both really love each other and he is a great guy. However, lately I've been feelin like he's not very good-looking. My bf is about 5'7 and very skinny. Also he's only 25 and...
A. 27 August 2008: It may be a bit shallow but it's just a sad fact of life that you HAVE to be attracted to the guy you are going out with.
Why don't you tell him you are losing feeling for him because there is "no chemistry." He'll ask you to explain and you can ... (read in full...)
How can I find senior women and make them attracted to me?
Q. I'm 19 I am attracted almost exclusively to older women. And by older, I mean at least 55 and up. But I'm scared to talk to them cause why would they want to date someone younger? How can I find senior women and make them attracted to me?...
A. 27 August 2008: Go and get a job somewhere they hang out.
Not to stereotype but at a hairdressers or a bingo hall. Then flirt away.
They will probably think you are just being charming but you can always offer to walk one of them home or just ask them out if ... (read in full...)
I'm so sick of all the 'getting drunk and having sex' situations!
Q. how can I handle this? Last night, i went out with my boyfriend and a girl friend. We were just trying to help her because she just broke up with her boyfriend and she wanted to have sex. By the way, her boyfriend was always hitting on me, an...
A. 27 August 2008: Well it sounds like you and your friends are all very shallow. It's easy to find people and even get together with a guy and put on a perfect front, without them really caring about you or even knowing who you really are.
But you want to change a... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants kids but I don't, as I already have 2. I'm afraid she will leave me as warned.
Q. I am a divorced father of two children, 11 and 9 years old. My current girlfriend has never been married and would like to have children. She has pretty much given me an ultimatum, "have another child with me or our relationship is over." Quite ...
A. 27 August 2008: Well if she is your age then her biological clock is ticking, he chances of being a mum are getting slimmer and if she wants to have one then she needs to find a man to share that experience with her.
If she was 20 years younger I would say that... (read in full...)
She doesn't love me any more and she's doesn't even feel guilty about her behavior! How do I get revenge?
Q. This is a bit of a lengthy story, but I think the context of it all is important. My girlfriend and I just broke up this last Sunday. We've been living together for over a year and a half and things were great until about 2 months ago... I ha...
A. 27 August 2008: No, you don't need to do anything. Why stoop to her level?
Yes she's hurt you so the best thing to do would be to move out as soon as possible. If that means she has to move out too being unable to manage bills on her own then that is not your pro... (read in full...)
How do you officially break up with someone and should I in this situation?
Q. Hi, So I've been with the same guy for a year and we've gone thru a lot...i stuck by his side even wen he claimed he wasnt over his ex, i stayed with him when he told me he wants to live with his ENTIRE FAMILY after marriage (3 bros, a sis, a b...
A. 27 August 2008: Well if you know there is no future then staying with him could be more hurtful in the long run as it will hurt him more to dump him for someone else, rather than just splitting up to be single.
Talk to him about it and say that you have realised... (read in full...)
I think my family hate me, I don't want to stop visiting them, but I don't want to see them either...
Q. I think my family hate me. I've been through years if abuse from my mum. It got worse on my 17th birthday, which was last December and I didn't expect to wake up from it. I was meant to go into care at 12, but they somehow managed to stop it. I g...
A. 27 August 2008: If you are self harming then stop seeing your family and seek medical help.
Nothing you do will make your family care. They are horrible people and will get their cumuppence one day.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think my family hate me, I don't want to stop visiting them, but I don't want to see them either...
Q. I think my family hate me. I've been through years if abuse from my mum. It got worse on my 17th birthday, which was last December and I didn't expect to wake up from it. I was meant to go into care at 12, but they somehow managed to stop it. I g...
A. 27 August 2008: I truely believe that just because some one is a blood relative, it dosen't mean they have a right to be in your life.
If they are not making you happy then cut them out. You have a partner, he is your family.
Friends are more important. Leave... (read in full...)
Is my mom's friend acting strange or am I reading into things?
Q. My mom has a guy friend Jeff (not real name) and hes nice and all but something seems strange about him.....when im home alone he'll call and ask what im doing for no reson and he always ask me "is any one there with you?!" then he'll tell/ask "ok ...
A. 26 August 2008: You have to tell your mum but you don't have to be all accusing about it.
Just tell her that he came over without warning and walked in on you in the shower the other day, and could she please ask him not to come over when she is not there.
... (read in full...)
Did he take advantage of me?!
Q. I was making out with my boyfriend tonight and he decided to take things further by putting his hands up my top while he lay on top of me kissing. I kept pulling his hand out of my top but he just kept going back to sneaking up my top! I kept ...
A. 25 August 2008: DUMP HIM!... (read in full...)
Did he take advantage of me?!
Q. I was making out with my boyfriend tonight and he decided to take things further by putting his hands up my top while he lay on top of me kissing. I kept pulling his hand out of my top but he just kept going back to sneaking up my top! I kept ...
A. 25 August 2008: Any guy that continues to do something after you have told him to stop is not only taking advantage of you but committing sexual assault.
I'm not saying you should call the police or anything as that would be pointless but technically, he did assa... (read in full...)
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