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writes:Im disabled for 3 years now, is it wrong to pay for sex ive never had to resort to this but now because of my disability i cant get out to meet women so i feel that is the only answer
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (5 September 2008):
 I know of guys that aren't disabled but dont want to date so pay for sex. As long as you stay safe, wheres the harm?
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Are you sure that this is the only answer? It sounds to me more like you are feeling insecure because of your disability and now you wallow in self-pity. But this is no solution! I am sure you are a great man and you still are even you are disabled now! I think you should try to get some help, some cure of your soul at a counselling to get back your self-assurance and self-confidence! With this I am sure you will find a great woman you can love and receive love from. Or are you just looking for sex? I don't think so, because you sound more like: for sex I can pay, but the rest is unreachable for me. But I am sure, it is not if you work on you!Good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 September 2008):
I have heard or organisations who get groups of guys like yourself together and head off on a boys trip to Spain. They use legal clean brothels over there.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7057929.stm
Just put "disabled men sex" into google and click "pages from the UK" and there is lots of information.
I would please ask you to go to a legal place abroad, or pay good money here. There are girls in the UK who work for themselves selling sex and are completely fine. But the majority of women are forced either through their addictions or because they were kidnapped and raped, to work as prostitutes. Don't use them.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Definitely try internet dating first as there must be people who wish to understand and help you overcome your feelings at this time and your situation. This way you may build friendships first or simply friendships full stop and I think your esteem is pretty flat right now. I don't think its wrong but have you considered an escort? You would not have to go the whole way if you did not want to and rather than just a quick wam bam thank you mam you will have a chance to be at ease and go from there as far as you want. I know a guy with cerebal palsy and he has used escorts - this way worked for him and he only did oral because he did not want do try any more than that. Your main aim could be to meet a lovely woman in life to love you as you love her so just ensure that what you do will not dilute any chances of that happening and make you feel bad about yourself. Either way you deserve some happiness - my advice is take things slowly and get used to the idea with someone so you know its right or not.
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reader, nellynelly1305 +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Your life has changed in the past 3 years, but you are still the same man on the inside that you always have been. So keep your head up high and think positive, and sooner or later your true love will find you (as long as you don't lock youself inside the 4 walls of your house) True love doesn't look at disabilities, whether your rich or poor, gorgeous or ugly etc...So dont go payin for sex, respect and accept who you are, people take you for what you let then see. So show them the person that you are, show them confidence not your disability and one day you'll meet that 'Her' with unconditional love towards you.PS: its the person that you are that count the most, and confidence is a sex/love magnet. so paying for sex is never the only option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): no it is not wrong. This one of the great underestimated public services that the working girls of the world provide.
Pick carefully. my advice in your situation would be to go Asian so long as you can cope with imperfect English. Treat them with great respect, treat them as friends and you will get back what you put in.
It is nerve racking the first time but go through with it and it should be one of the happiest days of what must have been a very difficult last few years for you.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Well you could try internet dating or try looking harder. Strangely enough this conversation came up earlier with me and my husband as he was talking about a job he is doing for a guy who relies on a wheelchair when I realised it was a guy I used to date. he asked me if i dated him because of his disabilites or dumped him because of it, I said no, I fancied him as a man and his personality wasnt right for me, and yes we had sex even though he is a paraplegic, there are ways and means and devices that he has to facillitate this. His disability or wheelchair was not a factor in the relationship or the break up and didnt even enter into my head.
I think what Im trying to say is that there may be a girl out there for you who is interested in you the person and will see beyond your disability. In the meantime, I dont believe paying for sex will make you feel better but we all have needs so it is your choice. But dont give up hope xxxxxx
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