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writes:Hi,My friend has 2 annoying children and a partner who is always out what he can get (freeloader). They always insist on meeting up or coming over to my house which i dread as the children always have tantrums and misbehave. Even when i go over to their house its just constant noise and mess that i cant wait to get home! I know its mean but i work full time and have lots of commitments during the week that weekends i just want to relax not be surround by children.How can i avoid meeting up with them as i dont want to offend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
Ask her to come out for a girly afternoon with you. Ask if she can get the boyfriend to look after the kids.
If you see her that way when you can, and then find some other childless friends then you should be ok.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Why not arrange to have lunch once or twice a month with just your friend either on a weekday when the kids are at school, in your lunch break if you can, or on a saturday. She might appreciate the break from the children. As a compromise you might have to pop and see all of them once a month too, at least that way you can control the length of the visit and contain any mess to their house.
Its probably the highlight of her week to visit you and she probably feels a bit left out and just a mum so needs you right now. When you do have lunch explain that at the moment you are working so hard you find it quite stressful to have them visit to often when its your only time to relax. Tell her she is doing a fantastic job being a mum but you are just not ready for that yet and find it hard being surrounded by kids, tell her you admire her and dont know how she copes, make her feel good about herself rather than saying her kids annoy the pants off you.
One day you might find the shoe on the other foot and need her!!!!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 September 2008):
 go to a place that is not either of your houses or be busy with someone else...
or even better get some new friends that then you can be with so that this other friend doesn't feel ignored just put on the backburner-it sounds to me like you're getting an overdose of her
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