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writes:ok i told my good friend that i wasnt a virgin and told her to not to tell anyone... then i started dating this girl i really like and care for... and one day she asked if i was a virgin and i told her yes and she said ok.. then today my good friend happened to accidently say o ya your boyfriend isnt a virgin and so my girlfriend asked me today again if i was and i confessed and told her i was and explained the whole story to her.. but then she dumped me cause i lied to her.... what can i do to win her back?? Reply to this Question
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reader, x.xLuckx.x  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Well, first of all calm down, take a deep breath.............Right now, what you are to do is this.... Tel her the truth, now that you have lost her trust she may not believe you but you have to make her understand....hope this helpsss....x.xLuckyx.x
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reader, Philosopher  +, writes (5 September 2008):
Well if I understand what you are saying correctly, you told your girlfriend you were a virgin, but you aren't. You shouldn't have lied about something like that! It sets precedent for dishonesty. Anyway, you can beg her for another chance - but be aware that trust has been lost and you'll have to earn it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): If you lied to her then she's got a right to dump you over it. You may not like it, but that's the breaks.
If she's believing what you told your friend over what you told her, then it's a trust issue. (You may end up being the one who wants to dump her over it eventually.)
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reader, ak202 +, writes (4 September 2008):
I think dumping you was a bit drastic. You ARE a virgin, now if you lied and said that you were a virgin and she found out that you've been with many girls that would be a totally different story. You should talk to her and explain your feelings, why you lied to her. And if she can't accept that, then move on. Keep your head up.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
Ok if I read the story right didn't you lie to your friend not your girlfriend? You told your girlfriend you were a virgin and you are so how did you lie to her? I got the story right right?Anyway tell her why you were ashamed of being a virgin and tell her that you are sorry for starting a stupid rumor that said that you weren't and if in the end she doesn't take you back then I think she was looking for any reason to leave you because you didn't actually lie to her.I hope that I read the story right!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
You can beg. You can explain why you lied and bring flowers and tell her how sorry you are and that you will never lie to her about anything ever again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Tremor +, writes (4 September 2008):
 If you liked and cared for her so much, why would you lie? You had to know it'd come back and bite you on the ass.
You've lost her trust now, and if you want to stand any kind of a chance, you'll have to try and re-gain it. Maybe explain exactly why you lied - trying to impress her, didn't want to scare her off, terribly terribly sorry, never do it again, etc... Begging for forgiveness is also a nice touch.
But bear in mind that she may well want nothing to do with you. In which case, try and learn from your mistakes when the next girl comes along.
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