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female
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36-40,
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writes:I'm in a bit of a pickle and I don't know if its because I'm over analyzing or not. I have a friend who I absolutly love to peices as a mate but we fancy the hell out of each other. we sleep together when we get drunk and were both ok with it. For a while I wanted to be with him told him my feelings and he said he doesn't do relationships. its hard to explain but it sounds very typical male and trust me i've been there a few times to know what their like but he is a very shy guy who has only slept with around 4 girls including me. so the male whore is out of the question. we just don't want to get things complicated. After a while I started to see what he meant and now I totally love what we have. Problem is he's moving 200 miles from me. I went to see him there recently and I absolutly fell in love with the place. I got on with the people he lived with and knew, love the area and just didn't want to go back. I've been wanting to escape where I live for a while as i recently moved back in with my mum, and we fight like cat and dog.I've lost my job and nothing is going for me. After going on that little trip I want to go back for a year but I'm paranoid that my friend will think i'm being obsessive and folloing him. A part of the reason is to be closeer to him but as a friend only. How can I explain that i want to move there for me and not for him? he knows I've wanted to move for ages though.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 September 2008):
Well just tell him that you are sick of living at home and need a new job. Tell him you are thinking of following his example and move away some where.
If he doesn't say "well you should move here, it's great!" then just ask him how he would feel about you moving to his city.
Then just have a look at the job market and move there if you can get a job and move some where else. Go where the work goes. If you are doing it for yourself then do that.
Good Luck!! xx
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