A
male
age
36-40,
*r X
writes:Hi all,Ive recently started going out with someone, its been a little over 3 weeks now. She is a great person and im really happy were seeing each other now as she simply makes my day.To the problem: She will soon be starting Uni in a weeks time which is close by anyway so well still get to see each other a lot, but she says she has an awful lot to sort out before she starts uni and apparently her Mum is quite controlling over her. I say this because we havnt really spent much time with each other although we do talk a lot it would nice to see her more. (is there really loads to do before uni?)As for texting or calling, im normally the one who starts a conversation but she'll reply to about 50% of them. She send a long email apologizing about that and explained that she has a track mind, doing one thing at a time allowing no interruptions which is why she said she unintentionally doesn't reply a lot.She has told me numerous times that she doesn't want to split up and she wants to be with me, my problem is I keep questioning myself about that "is she for real?" I have to be honest im scared to lose her as shes the first person who has ever accepted me for I am (the last girl just wanted sex which I am glad I said no to her).Basically, what i am asking you all is: Is there a way to boost my confidence about her? How can I learn to "switch off" at times? (My problem is that I think to much about things and have a habit of evaluating everything which I really don't want to do)Many thanks in advance and I hope what I have written is to confusing! :)
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reader, Mr X +, writes (4 September 2008):
Mr X is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks peeps,It certainly explains a lot and given me a better insight on the whole thing which is cool.As for filling time, I was offered a new job 2 days ago as Security manager so that will definitely be something to fill the time.I dont text loads each day but i will cut back a little :pAgain, Thankyou :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
She has to pack her entire life away into a couple of boxes, plus deal with endless relatives who try and give "helpful" advice and piles of old mouldy bed clothes.
It's no wonder she hasn't got time to spend the whole day on her phone.
Chill out and just text her a bit less. You should be sorting your own life out as you are going to need something to fill your time once she leaves. Take up a new job or hobby so you are not thinking about the placement of commas in her text messages and their deeper meaning.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, :):):) +, writes (4 September 2008):
I'm also going to uni in a couple of weeks time and she isnt lying, there is an awful lot to sort out. It just sounds like she might need a little space whilst she settles in at uni.
When you first start seeing someone its normal to analyse things a little, so you know whats happening. You just have to keep your mind busy and take each day as it stands.
Don't repeatedly text and call her for now and let her ring you. You will then know where you stand.
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