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*hippy2
writes:Can you really just Fall out of Love? I was head over heels for this guy for over three years but the last few months my psych meds have changed and I see how he has been treating me - it has gotten to the point that I now realize what my friends have told me - he doesnt respect me and that he is using me - he is on dating sites He invited me to come to work with him the last two days - yesterday was his birthday - I couldnt cause I had to get my daughter to her school in the morningsHe boohooed cause he was alone for his bday - he is 42!Today I took over his b-day gifts and he said thanks but was working on his car and really never gave me a hug or seemed interested in opening them - it is now late at night and he is still fooling with his car - WE were supposed to spend time together today - he asked me to pickup his paycheck on the other side of the city! Like a fool I did!I left messages 3 about how i was feeling neglected and miffed. He has not called probably still working on car! What should I do - Just move on like others say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Yes, it is possible. Falling out of love can be more emotionally consuming than falling IN love, because you walk through a lot of doubt, as sometimes the partner's actions that are challenging to the relationship not only damage your trust in him but also your self-trust. This is why you start feeling unable to recognise whether you should end the relationship or you are only going through a rocky patch that is temporary. You must be honest with yourself and analyse how the relationship has changed, how important is what dissatisfies you at the moment, how much more you are willing to compromise and how this burdens you. Also, look at your own faults, even if your only fault was accepting that he would use you.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 September 2008):
Yep, move on. You've hit that magic three year point and the initial love has faded. It happens to a lot of relationships, good and bad.
Walk away and learn not to put up with an idiot like this again.
Good Luck!! xx
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