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writes:I'm 14 and i really like this guy who is 15 and is in the year above at school. I've known him since we were in primary school. I've liked him for a few years now and i think i love him. ( Do not say that because im 14 i can't be in love) Last September/October he found out that i liked him and started ignoring me until about May, and that was because my friend *Hanna sorted things out between us.He started going out with this girl and i thought i would get over him. Over the Summer holidays my close friend *Jay found out from His cousin *Rebecca that he loves me, and is only going out with his girlfriend to get over me.When we went back to school he kept staring at me and he started turning bright red when he saw me. Me and my friends noticed this, and thats when we figured out that what Jay told me is correct. He goes pink when he see's my other close friend *Emma on the account that he she will tell me everything if she finds out anything. He broke up with his girlfriend last week and his cousin Rebecca phoned Jay a few days ago telling her that he has had a crush on me since he was in P.5, (When he was 9 years old) and that i was beautiful, but he won't tell me how he feels or ask me out. Jay yesterday overheard him in the corridor telling someone that he thinks his ex is ugly compared to me and that i'm truely stunning.He keeps going red and hesitates, and i can see the panic flood his face when he see's me. Emma noticed that as well as she is in 4 of my classes, and we pass him in the corridor a lot. Emma and i are thinking about confronting him about him going red etc. (although he will probably deny it knowing him) tomorrow at school.Is this the right thing to do?HELP!!!!
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reader, lexilou +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Dont embarrass the poor guy! Try talking to him and letting him know you are interested too. Smile sweetly at him and be nice, if he thinks you are out to humiliate him he will run a mile x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
Haha, what are you going to do? Tie him to a chair and slap him about until he confesses?
I think you need to take a bit of a deep breath and calm down. This poor guy is probably mixed up in his head. Why do you have to know what he is thinking?
If he likes you then he will probably ask you out. Calm down, look pretty, and be approachable. Don't go psycho on him or he won't want to be with you in case you beat him up again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 So, if you know that he will deny everything about going red, then why do it? It will be a waste of your time then.
And him talking bad about his ex doesn't sound like a good character from him. He basically used her and then dumps her for unknown reasons and then says she's ugly. I don't care how beautiful you may or may not be, but talking bad about a person you went out with speaks bad for the person, unless he was in a really bad relationship with her (which I doubt). Be flattered if you want, I don't see anything good from what he said.
And haven't you wondered if it's your friend Emma that he has a crush on? You're often around her when he sees you and blushes and you have even said that he blushed when he saw her, so don't you think his crush is directed towards her and not you? If you confess your feelings when he actually likes someone else and not you will be a very awkward and embarrasing moment for you.
So what to do. Well, you could wait for him to get the balls and ask you out. I think the reason why he doesn't ask you out yet is because he spurned you once and fears you might spurn him as vengance. So, if you're up to it, you can spread around your friends that you still like him and that you still want to be with him. Maybe with that assuance he will get the courage to ask you out.
Or, you could ask him yourself or Emma could do it for you. If you want subtetly, you or she can ask him "So, is there anyone out there that you like?" Most often, if they like you, he will leave in clues for it. Or you could just bluntly ask him "do you like me?"
Ps: Well, of course you can love at your age. You love your friends, don't you? And your parents and siblings, right? And you could also love your boyfriend, BUT saying that you migh be *in* love would take more convincing. Not even adults have truely been in love (even when they claim they are, they might be wrong) and not until you truely fall in love will you realize how it really feels like, and looking back, you would realize it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): I think you should have a word with him alone. Having a friend with you, out numbers him and he will panic even more and be defensive. Just have a casual chat and be friendly. If you go in 'all guns blazing' you will scare him off. Take your time, its taken years to get this far dont ruin it by rushing now.
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reader, Racky +, writes (3 September 2008):
 hi chick dnt confront him as he is more likly to get defencive and argue n u will cause ur self a whole lot of trouble. y dnt u get him on his own if poss n ask him out this is the 21st century boys dnt have to do all the runnin. hope this helps xx
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (3 September 2008):
 Nonono. Don't confront him about going red. That will make him close up even more. Talk to him normally, but you'll embarrass him by saying that he goes red.
Sounds like you two should be together, although maybe you should clear something up with yourself, do you love him, or are you IN love with him. Think about those two statements carefully, they're VERY different!
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