My sister is dating someone who will clearly use her and she doesn't want to listen to me!
Q. Hello, my sister (who's just turned 16) has just started going out with a lad who is 24. This lad has no real interest in my sister and is clearly trying to get into her pants. He has a history of going out with many girls and having sex with them ...
A. 1 September 2008: You can't unfortunately.
make one last attempt to really calmly tell her that you know for a fact this guy has a string of ex girlfriends that he left as soon as he got sex.
After that you just have to leave it up to her and be there when she g... (read in full...)
My girlfriend ignores me for long hours. Is she playing with me?
Q. I am getting stressed with my current relationship. She distant herself from me and come back close. After awhile, she distant herself again. It happened so many times. When she does that, she went missing the whole day. Not picking up phone ...
A. 1 September 2008: Perhaps she just wanted some time to herself. It was only one day!
Tell her that you were worried about her and ask her to let you know if she needs to go off and have some alone time again.
The she can go off and relax knowing she won't have 9... (read in full...)
What do you do when you love each other but have to break up for religious reasons?
Q. ok so im with a guy been with him for a mnth and a half and he loves me more then i love him he tells me that if he cld compare his love to everything in the world it wldnt come close, only problem is he is muslim and i am orthodox and my ...
A. 1 September 2008: Well if you have made your choice to stick with what you think your family wants then you have to be honest with him and hurt him.
You can't lead him on and give him this false hope that you may pick him.
Yes you are going to hurt him but you... (read in full...)
How can I get him in the mood after a long hard day at work ?
Q. My Boyfriend of 2 yrs ... Is constantly tired or sore from work to treat me like he used to and im afraid that if i confront him he will leave me or we will have an argument. and one of thoes people that hate arguing as i was brought up with ...
A. 1 September 2008: Relaxing massages work.
Get him on the bed with candle light and do his back, the flip him and straddle him to do his shoulders and kiss him. You should obviously be wearing something a bit sexy as well.
I will just say that you shouldn't be... (read in full...)
What do you do when you love each other but have to break up for religious reasons?
Q. ok so im with a guy been with him for a mnth and a half and he loves me more then i love him he tells me that if he cld compare his love to everything in the world it wldnt come close, only problem is he is muslim and i am orthodox and my ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well would one of you convert? Would either of you risk losing your families?
What is more important, your family or being together?
You have to figure it out and make a decision. Perhaps if you family see how happy you are together then th... (read in full...)
My wife thinks we should terminate the pregnancy because we still haven't had a wedding dinner. Please advise!
Q. i have ROM in Jan 2008 but have yet to have wedding dinner due to the death of my dad. Recently my wife was pregnant and she don't know if we should keep the baby as she is afraid that her dad will be very furious as we have yet to have the wedding ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well you have 9 months to have the wedding dinner. Surely that is plenty of time.
Perhaps she just feels she is too young and wants to live a little more before becoming a mother.
Talk to her and find out what she is scared of.
You could... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend keeps kicking me out! Is this normal?
Q. My girlfriend is pregnant and she is always kicking me out. Last week we she said she had the ump and although she said it wasnt my fault she told me I had to stay at my mums that night. I didnt call her that evening because she said she didnt want ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well think about it... if someone injected you with a chemical that altered your body dramatically, and made you grow a 10lb living lump inside you, then you would expect that same chemical to have a side effect on your mind.
She is pregnant... (read in full...)
Since we have been married, my husband has completely changed, he is boring, unkept, gambles, and does not give me any money, this is troubling, what can I do?
Q. well what can i say about me i am 22 hispanic and really outgoing i just recently got married. my question is what can i do when my husband is totally the opposite of me ever since we got married he has been boring and does not dress nice anymore ...
A. 31 August 2008: Annul the marriage and get out. You married him because you thought he was a nice guy and a provider. He's not.
Get a job and move into your own place again, and get rid of this guy.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We broke up in February, when he gave me a letter, stating he wanted to start up again in a year with me, have not seen him since we broke up, now I get a voice mail, that he wants to drop over, what could he want?
Q. Hello Everyone, I need some advice regarding my ex... We broke up in Feb this year and haven't seen him since. I have recieved a voice mail message and messages stating that if I am home so he can pop over??? What does this mean? What could...
A. 31 August 2008: If it was anything normal then he would say so in the message - eg. I found some of your CDs and would like to drop them over and say hi.
The fact he's being so mysterious about wanting to talk to you in person says to me that he is ready to take ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is scaring me! She just blows up and takes it out on me...
Q. So, I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. we're in our early 20s. She's my first and the relationship seemed really good at first. We would spend time together but over the past few months she's changed. She throws tantrums and takes ...
A. 31 August 2008: She's pregnant - that does crazy things to your brain - you try having enough hormones washing round you to physically alter your body and grow a clone.
Tell her you can't take much more of this and need some space then go and sleep on a friend's... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend pay more than her equal share when we go out to dinner?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for little under a year. We both make decent money. She enjoys eating out at finer places more so than I do and I pay for a majority of these meals. Since I'm mainly going out to these finer establishments for her, ...
A. 31 August 2008: Next time she wants to go out then tell her you've been spending too much on restaurants so will cook her spag bol instead.
If she wants to go out then she can pay for it. She probably only doesn't pay because you are in the habit of paying a... (read in full...)
His mother is not willing to give him up! Should I stay with him or let her have him?
Q. hello, I had met my soul mate when I had been on holidays, although we were both expecting nothing of it at first but a summer fling, we both fell in love. He had proposed to me, and I came back home the happiest girl. Its been 4 months long dist...
A. 31 August 2008: Well she sounds like a right nut job, but since you are unable to get her help it looks like her nutty ways are here to stay.
Since your relationship is long distance I'd say go with what he's suggesting. She's going to go to bed at some point an... (read in full...)
I want to get more intimate with him but we only see each other for a few months. What should I do?
Q. oh jeez...just did something veeeery interesting. some of you will remember the guy that i mentioned in earlier questions (the 'bad' one). well, i got slightly very hammered, and ended up making out with him (and going onto more, but we stopped), ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well he doesn't want a long distance thing so he just wants a Make-Out-Buddy... like a sex friend but without the sex.
If you think you are emotionally strong enough to separate your feelings from that and not get hurt when he treats you as a bit... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage. I'm miserable but I can't leave the kids. What do I do?
Q. Don't know what to think or do anymore. April 7th, 2000 my wife left without a word. No note, no indications whatsoever. Took our kids and moved in with her boss where she stayed for a year and a half. Then she came back... my mistake but I still ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well then tell her that although you want to stay living as a couple for the kids, you think you should see each other as just house mates.
Once that pressure of "trying to make work" is off then she might actually be your friend again. Do you h... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and now I'm feeling weird. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I had sex with my basically boyfriend friday the 22nd. I took his verginity. I dont think he pulled out in time and when he did...it got on my inner thigh. we didnt use a condom. couple days after that, the condom broke. I am very emotional an...
A. 31 August 2008: If you had sex without a condom and then the condom split then yes there is a good chance you may be pregnant. Your boyfriend is going to be pretty annoyed that he only got to have sex 2 times before getting you up the duff.
It's too late for the ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend is acting differently, what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. I am with my gf for almost 2 years. We are now living far from each other. Sometimes, we meet once a month and sometimes not at all. I miss her a lot that I always wanted to talk to her. Usually, I called when she is not working. She...
A. 31 August 2008: Well firstly you should really arrange times to talk because sitting online all day hoping she will come on is not healthy. Trust me I have been there and done it.
Secondly, I think you just need to ask her why she has become so distant. She may ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Or what?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together for about a year! things were great for about 6 months and now things are changing. he doesnt come to see me anymore even though im a 6 minute drive away. i ask him if i can go to his and he just says no and to l...
A. 31 August 2008: Oooh! 3 days!! I haven't seen my husband in 100 days. But I've spoken to him for an hour and 20 mins this week which is far more than usual.
I still think he could be being sarcastic and avoiding you because you are being so demanding and clingy. ... (read in full...)
How can I get more info on this teacher to aid in my fantasies?
Q. How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies? I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time. I am 22 years o...
A. 31 August 2008: Ok, well his age is easy, next time he asks you to explain a phrase (like something off the internet) then just say "Oh sorry, I keep forgetting you are in your 50's."
Add about 10 years to what you think he is, and he should react, and you'll b... (read in full...)
Was she lying about him molesting her or was she just cheating on me?
Q. I would like to find out what you would do my girlfriend called me up 1 day saying a guy(her friend) tried to molest her when he invited her to go out because it was the last day he was in town. She gave me his number to call him up. Then he told ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well she gave you his number... that's the bit that makes me think that although she may have led him on and even had something more than friendship going on, she was telling the truth about him doing something unwanted. Either that or it's a really ... (read in full...)
I'm caught under my dads pressure, what can I do about it?
Q. School starts up again soon and I was planning to try my best for A-level. I haven't been working for a while so I thought it would be easy to get back into it. The only thing is, last year my Dad continously blackmailed me with chucking me out ...
A. 30 August 2008: If you are over 16 then your education is down to you. If you go to a local college they do not need your parents to sign anything.
Tell him that if you don't get to do your A-Levels then you are doing him for assault. If he can afford to send you... (read in full...)
I want to be able to see my daughter because I have quit on drugs, any advice?
Q. my exhusband has not let me see our daughter in almost 5 years because of my past drug use i now have been clean and sober for 5 years what should i do and coull you show me some web sites on how this effects my daughter to not see her mom...
A. 30 August 2008: I agree about going to court. Your husband may not trust you again, but he can't argue with lots of clean drug tests to prove you are fit and court approved access.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Or what?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together for about a year! things were great for about 6 months and now things are changing. he doesnt come to see me anymore even though im a 6 minute drive away. i ask him if i can go to his and he just says no and to l...
A. 30 August 2008: I was going to say "well it sounds like he's just not interested in you...."
But then I got to the bit where he says he sees you 3 to 4 times a week and phones you or MSN's you every day!!
You aren't married! He has school and friends to s... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my boyfriend just wants me for sex.
Q. i've been with this boy for 3 months now. He is like so obessed with sex but we havent done it. Now im not sure if he likes me for who i am or what he can get from me. what should i do?...
A. 30 August 2008: Most teenage boys are obsessed with sex. Tell him you are going to wait till you are 17 or 18 to lose your virginity, and ask him if he will wait that long.
If he's using you then he'll be off like a shot. If he waits then he might be worth it... (read in full...)
My family prefer my ex to my new wife.
Q. my family dont seem to like my new wife and they still talk to my ex wife and go around me to her about things they would like to do with my son my wife is mad and rightly so what can i do...
A. 30 August 2008: Talk to your family about it. Tell them you don't apprieciate the way they are behaving.
If your son is with his mother then it is only right they go direct to her to see him... it just misses out the middle man, and since your Ex is the mother o... (read in full...)
We had a good initial chat, but now she's "too busy" to go out with me.
Q. hey all, i knew a girl that lives beside our house, the first day i met her we talked for more than 3 hours and in the next day i asked her to go to a trip in the city and she accpeted that and every thing went ok, after a week i tried to i...
A. 30 August 2008: I think she's probably busy.
Ask her to give you a ring or a text when she's free and would like to meet up again, tell her you really liked hanging out.
If she calls then yey! If not then you'll know to start moving on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can I fit in at university even if I don't "party hearty"?
Q. Hi. Im due to start university next month and am getting a bit worried. I took a year out before going to university to basically do some work. During that year I feel I have grown up a lot, met a new group of friends, my interests have changed ...
A. 30 August 2008: First year can very much about going out and getting pissed. But that's because a lot of the kids in first year will have never been away from home before.
Luckily, there are lots of clubs and societies you can join and make lots of friends ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is behaving badly, but how can I tell for sure if this other boy likes me?
Q. Well, my life is a mess right now...Again. First, my boyfriend, who I've been talking about being wonderful, is driving me NUTS. He has only given me a hug, ONCE. Except, like, if I hurt myself, but all my friends do too. But, he doesn't touch me...
A. 30 August 2008: Your boyfriend is acting like a little boy. This is probably because he IS a little boy. He is obviously not ready to do boyfriend girlfriend stuff so I think you should go back to being friends.
As for the other guys, just hang out with them, be... (read in full...)
How should I deal with this guy from work?
Q. This guy recently started working at my job. While he was training I noticed him watching me when I'd walk by. I few days later he yelled to me and asked me which department I worked in. I answered and introduced myself...he introduced himself as ...
A. 30 August 2008: Just because he hasn't asked for your number, you think he's not interested? He's probably just holding back because he's picking up massive "I'm TERRIFIED LEAVE ME ALONE!!" vibes from you.
Why don't you just give him your number or ask if he's ... (read in full...)
I'm caught under my dads pressure, what can I do about it?
Q. School starts up again soon and I was planning to try my best for A-level. I haven't been working for a while so I thought it would be easy to get back into it. The only thing is, last year my Dad continously blackmailed me with chucking me out ...
A. 30 August 2008: Can you move to a relative's house to go to a college near them?
Ask him straight out why he doesn't want you to do A-levels. Keep asking him until you get an answer. He can't ignore you forever.
Is your mum not involved? If not then involve... (read in full...)
If I am like a brother to her then why is she interested in hearing all my sex stories??
Q. well, I am 23 year old male who is in deep friendship with a women who is married and elder than me and leading a bad relation with her husband. she is too open to me and keep saying to me always as you are my Best friend and if i start to say some...
A. 30 August 2008: She likes gossip and sexy stories, lots of women do, it means nothing unfortunately.
The fact that she KEEPS telling you that she only sees you as a friend is a sign to me that she only sees you as a friend.
Spend some time away from her an... (read in full...)
How can I get more info on this teacher to aid in my fantasies?
Q. How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies? I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time. I am 22 years o...
A. 30 August 2008: So you basically just need ways to stalk him for a bit?
Well firstly break into his house and hide a camera.....
No seriously. Don't do that. The whole point of fantasies is that they are NOT real. You are never going to be with this guy so... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't love me like she used to...she wants to see other people?
Q. My fiance told me she doesent love me like she did. She came over on sunday and texted me before she came over that we needed to talk. It bothered me so much, she was going to wait until after dinner, but i begged her and she said, I think we should ...
A. 30 August 2008: She is letting you down gently. Do not have sex with her and just accept it is over. I think you will be heart broken but you need to cut contact for a while and try to get over her.
She is just going to use you and hurt you more otherwis... (read in full...)
I've been kicked out of the university for not dedicating myself properly!
Q. ive been kicked out of uni for not dedicating my self properly-theres no chance of me getting back in-all this is due to personal health reasons which i have seen a docter about. For the last fornight since i found out- i have not slept or ate ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well if it was health reasons then they should just have let you take a year off. I very much doubt they would just kick you out without cause and refuse to let you try again.
Go back and talk to them and give them a doctors note. Be honest a... (read in full...)
My shy boyfriend is starting to worry me
Q. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 16 too, he is my first boyfriend and i am his first girlfriend too. we've been together for 1-2 months but ive known him for years (but we werent really friends for that time). i asked him out in germany and he seemed ...
A. 30 August 2008: It sounds like you are just not a high priority in his life, and I think you should start trying to get over him.
Toughen up and don't take crap like this. Tell him that you want a boyfriend who WANTS to spend time with you and doesn't act like... (read in full...)
I'm 35 years old and never been in love. Is there still hope for me?
Q. i am nearly 35 and have still never been in love. Im getting very anxious that i will never find love and have children. Is it ever going to happen to me or am i too late ?...
A. 30 August 2008: Of course it's not too late.
How many new people did you meet last week? If the answer is less than 1 then there is your problem.
Get out there! Join groups and clubs, volunteer, do everything you can to meet new people. You will only find y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't french kiss me! He says it leads to sex.
Q. My boyfriend says the reason he won't french kiss me is because it always leads to sex and he has no desire for sex. He has ED. but I think french kissing is not just for sex. We've only been together 2 months and I 'm not ready for sex but I am ...
A. 30 August 2008: Hmmm, well I think you are going to have to be a bit less subtle and force him to talk about this.
It is not normal to have not snogged your boyfriend. At the moment he is basically treating you as his sister or best friend!
Try to kiss h... (read in full...)
It hurts me that my BF wouldn't have accompanied me to do the abortion in case I was pregnant, should I continue to stay with him, what do you think?
Q. hi all my bf and i had a pregnacy scare a few days ago i thought i might be pregnant i was terrified although im 27 i still live at home and have a job as a nursery nurse and love this . and my folks told me from a young age if i was ever preg...
A. 30 August 2008: Well if he didn't want you to have an abortion then he shouldn't have to come and watch you do it, that is just going to really really hurt him. You already got rid of his child once without even asking him.
The fact you live at home and don't wa... (read in full...)
I have been seeing someone for a year now and I love him but he isn't nice to me anymore and I feel I have had enough!
Q. I dont know what to do anymore, ive just had enough. Ive been seeing someone for a year now and i love him with all my heart but i dont think he loves me anymore and he isnt very nice to me - not like it was. I just feel so down right down, i ga...
A. 30 August 2008: If he's not making you happy then get rid of him. You can improve relations with your family once he is out of the picture, and be more open with your friends once you are single again.
As for the job, take a night course, September is a new scho... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant on your week break from the pill?
Q. hi all is it true that in the seven pill free days that your waiting for your period that if you have sex you wont be pregnant because you taken the pill even if you have sex when your on your period ??...
A. 30 August 2008: It should keep your protected on your 7 days break. Read the leaflet that comes in the pill packet and that should explain it and possibly even have a helpline number.
It's always better safe than sorry though so if in doubt, use condoms.... (read in full...)
How often should I see my long distance boyfriend? I don't feel bad when I miss a weekend, should I?
Q. My boyfriend (of 3 months) lives about 2 hours from me so its not that difficult for us to see each other, but we can only visit at weekends cos we both work full time. However, he wants to see me pretty much every weekend. I.e. alternating visi...
A. 30 August 2008: You need your own space. Everyone does. And you need your own social life, or you will stop being Neil and Wendy and just become Weil and loose who you are.
Tell him that 2 weeks is not long and if he can't cope then he should start looking ... (read in full...)
Should I stop masturbating?
Q. Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Tell her to stop having periods. Every month she's throwing away a baby when it could have lived.
Why would you have told her you are masturbating? Keep it to yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't french kiss me! He says it leads to sex.
Q. My boyfriend says the reason he won't french kiss me is because it always leads to sex and he has no desire for sex. He has ED. but I think french kissing is not just for sex. We've only been together 2 months and I 'm not ready for sex but I am ...
A. 30 August 2008: You could just tell him that you promise it won't lead to sex because you are on your period but just want to be kissed.
I love kissing my husband, but it doesn't always lead to sex because half the time we are out or cooking dinner when we kiss.... (read in full...)
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