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writes:Hi. I have been dating this boy for a while. I live with him in this cute little apartment in suburban Ohio.Recently he found out his little sister has cancer and when he found out he got so upset he put his foot through our TV. I love him very much but that scared me, and I miss our TV. Should I break up with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2008):
I think if I found out my little sister had cancer then I would smash something too.
I am always one to warn people about potentially violent men, but I think in this case he was upset enough to want to hit out at something with a valid excuse. It's not like he did it because you hadn't done the washing up.
Tell him that he scared you when he did it and get him to talk about his feelings.
For a new TV, try freecycle.org if you can't afford a new one.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (16 September 2008):
 No you shouldnt unless he has shown other signs he might be violently inclined. Hearing that news is bound to put anybody under stress and though it was an extreme reaction that is easy for us all to say; if it was our kith and kin we might be inclined to do the same. Your bf will be feeling a whole spectrum of emotions and one of them will be extreme frustration with his inability to change the inevitable when his natural feelings will be to protect his sister.
It is also natural for you to be scared but I think you should cut him some slack here. Have a chat with him; gently tell him how you felt and I am 99% sure he will immediatly reassure you and understand that he shouldnt have done it; apologise and show you that it was just a one off. Be there for him, he will need you. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): No. His reaction might have been wild and unexpected but lerning that his sister was so ill probably hit him very hard. This is not by any means a true indication of the sort of person he is.
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