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writes:Hi,My boyfriend did not call me on my birthday. I wouldn't want to say that he "forgot" because that just might not be the case. Me and my boyfriend are in this long-distance relationship, me being in NY and he being in London. I had my birthday almost a week ago and he didn't call me almost a week before it or on my birthday and until now. He's such a jerk and I think he's broken up with me without telling me about it! Am I reading too much into the situation? I haven't had the heart to confront him about it and so haven't really given him a call either. I just wanted to appear as indifferent as I was. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): In long distance relations it's easy for the other partner to cheat. If i forget the birthday of my loved ones that simply shows my lack of care and concern for them and in the most intimate relation that you have with him he surely has taken you for granted and misbehaved, acted very inconsiderate with you.
Stil drop your ego and confront him start with simple hello, dont b rude when u talk nd slowly get down to the point and if your not ready for this then accept and surrender to the situation that you are in....on day u'll get ur answers cud take long bt it'll b worth it.
For now say thx to god for saving you from that ass coz we tend to see the other person when we r in relationship like god bt the reality is different coz that person is as ordinary as iceam boy downstair or even worst so smile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThings haven't been smooth between us for quite sometime. Three months ago, I had this huge mess-up in office and I was dealing with it and I had shut myself from him and everybody else( thats how I am). But both of us talked it out later and he said that he completely understood I need my space. I thought we had left that behind. Then, just a month ago, his sister got married and ever since then he has stopped calling me often and is usually too busy( thats what he says). I have this unnerving feeling that maybe he has fallen for some of his sister's friend or bridesmaid during the wedding. After all, so many people hook up in weddings. Shandygirl - He has been living in London for a year now.
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reader, CNKlives +, writes (17 September 2008):
Is it normal for you two to not talk this long? If not, I would say he was too scared to break up with you, so did what a lot of men do...just act really bad until you do the dirty work. Why would you want that? He should be celebrating your birthday!! Also, you shouldn't act indifferent about it if you aren't... I call him, and DON'T break up with him..make him do it.. xx good luck darling
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (17 September 2008):
I can understand why you are feeling how you feel.
Id be pretty hurt if I was you to. ithink you have every right to expect a message or phone call from your bf on your birthday.
I can only guess why he hasnt contacted you to say happy birthday...but youll never really know until you contact him.
But if you could answer some questions it might give me more of an idea about whats going on...
Firstly, how would you say your relationship is, in general, before this bday issue happened?
Does he usualy contact you alot? Does he initiate the contact or do you?
In general, does he forget things?
Not hearing from him for a week or two, is that usual or unusual?
I think you should call him and find out whats going on. He might have some reasonable explanation but personally, i am finding it hard to think of a reason other then the fact that hes possibily a jerk for being so rude and not contacting you.
I know its hard confronting him, as you probably fear what he will say, but in the end its best to find out now then later, so whatver the answer is, you can take steps to feeling happy again.
goodluck and let us know what happens
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (17 September 2008):
 Long distance relationships are a B-tch! Does he Live in London or just on a trip? If he lives in London, then perhaps you should feel uncomfortable about him not calling you for 2 weeks.
I had a Long distance relationship once, with a guy that I met on a Cruise. We only kept in contact for 2 weeks before it died off mutually on BOTH sides. We really liked each other, but realized that neither one of us was going to move. He was a "District Attorney" in California, and I was a business owner in Virginia. oh well.
If it makes you feel better, call him. See what is going on. Maybe he is so involved with what is going on with his life, that time flies by quickly, and he totally forgot.
Once I forgot my ex-husband's birthday. OOP! He was peeved and hurt about it. In the past few years, I also have been forgetting my family's birthdays. It is easy to do unless I mark it on my calendar.
So anyhow... there are 2 views.
Take Care XXX
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2008):
Well you can't go on torturing yourself.
Call him and simply say "Well I take it this is your childish way of dealing with your feelings. Since you do not have any balls then I will get some and tell you it's over. Don't contact me again. Bye Then."
Take control of the situation. Dump Him! Why should he get the power?
Good Luck!! xx
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