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writes:Hi I would like to hear some opinion from anyone here.I have my long distance bf from US whom I been with for 2 yrs, we haven't meet yet but soon.As a normal couples we do have our arguments even to the smallest things. I normally send an email or call to apologize to him and he does it too with me. We discuss on resolving our problems right away and not keeping it for days. But 3 days ago this things happening again and were not talking.I dont get it when we have our arguments I thought everything is fine, I thought we both settle, we forgive, forget and moved on when I send him email to apologize .I dont even understand why I have to say sorry when I dont think I made mistakes just because I dont agree with his opinion but because I love him so much and I just want peace of mind for us. In relationships there bounds to have ups and down and its part of growing.My bf cant seems to get over when after we patch up there he goes again reminding me about how I hurt his feelings on the last arguments we had. He hurts my feelings too but I dont pick up that pieces and tell him again what is over its over. I really wish he will shut up and just moved on. I feel like a child who needs constant reminder from him...me not to do it again....of me being so stupid. Were not young anymore I need peace of mind and not hearing this old record playing again and again. He got this issue that I still cant handle this is hurting me and hurting our relationship.Any advice would be greatly apreciated. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): how can u both seriosuly love each other and stuff if u both have never met he could be cheet for all you noo
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 September 2008):
This is a common problem. It will only get worse if you get together.
If you are already having to apologise for things you don't think you need to then stop.
If he is being arrogant and stubborn then tell him and tell him it has to stop because you do not want a relationship like that.
When he starts bringing past things up tell him that it has nothing to do with the current argument and you are sick of hearing it.
Take a hard line and get this sorted now. You cannot have a relationship where you are ALWAYS in the wrong and NEVER forgiven.
Good Luck!! xx
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