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writes:I found out my husband cheated on my when our son BeBe was just 4 weeks, he is going to be 3 this Oct. The other woman just gave birth to my husband child 3 month ago. After almost three years of sharing my husband with the other woman, there is no longer hope that he will leave her and come back to me and our son. I want out now. I also want to find out what type of financial support I can get for my son and myself. I live in San Jose, CA of the US. Reply to this Question
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Go to a lawyer right a away and ask them about this situation. Get him for all he's got because he has taken alot from you and your child.
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reader, blackROSE1916 +, writes (16 September 2008):
Hard enough dealing with financial worries, I am so sorry~ you deserve better but I would take him for all he has got before she takes him for child support. Get a lawyer and act like you don't know a thing~ he deserves it! You need family support & alimony, child support, if you don't work and meet the guidelines~ could qualify for federal assistance! Believe it or not you and your babies will be just fine, must stay strong and do what right for you and your kids. In my opinion he put him self in this position so beat him@ his own game.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Get a lawyer and you can send the bill to your husband. Do it before he does. You may be able to get alimony and sue the other woman for alienation of affection. Get moving.
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reader, mima  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 i feel so sorry for him to have allowed a mere woman break his family. i hate it that BeBe has to grow up in a broken home but even if i were in your shoes, i'd leave for when there's no love, there's no happiness. try getting something doing and try getting occupied all the time. it'll help alot and let him see that even without him, you stil make it for u and BeBe. he'll regret the decision he took soon
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Hi Honey,
Sorry to hear what an Ar** your ex has been to you, but at least you have the common sence to get out and move on. I'm affraid that I cant give any advice on money matters, except to do what Emily says and see a lawyer, or better still if you can get some kind of free advice,Then that would be even better. I just thought that you might like to know that you have a lot of support.
Good luck to you, and be carefull not to fall for any more lies from him.
XXX Tellulah
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 September 2008):
You'd have to ask a lawyer in your state.
Perhaps one of the aunts is from your area and will know so keep trying!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, miss know it all +, writes (16 September 2008):
I would suggest that you go and see someone who will help you get child maintenance because thats one thing you are entitled to and what he has to pay as the father. Ask him about it first of all and see if you can come up with some kind of payment if he is adamant that he is not going to pay a penny then thats when i would seek professional help off someone that will be able to help you. Im so sorry this so called man is putting you and your child through this ive been through it before and its not very pleasant. Even if your husband is on the dole they can still take part of that. Good luck for the future nd i hoipe it works out for you.
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