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writes:We have been married 15 years, We had romance and a lot of passionate sex prior to marriage, my husband was using meth at the time on occasion. On our wedding night no loving sex at all. From then sex only 3 times in the whole 15 years. I am very sad and unfullfilled. I'm drowning here. He, in the last couple of months has been diagnosed with Bi Polar. I do not think I can live the rest of my life like this. I am very sad for him as well as for myself. I do not know what to do?? I have tried to call several doctors in my community Phychologist as of today no call back. Please give me some advice.....
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reader, PsychicDove  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Hi Honey,
Leaving this relationship could cause you heart-breaks and difficulties, besides it is quite premature to leave him now that you have devoted your whole life on him right?
Regarding his Bi-Polar disorder as well as Sexual problems or any other health problem he has, they can be healed by a Japanese spiritual healing system called REIKI.
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Take care okay?
Good Luck and Best Wishes
~PsychicDove
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reader, deekay  +, writes (20 October 2008):
I too wish you luck.I cannot imagine how unfulfilled you are in your marriage and bi-polar should not have meant that you have lived such a lonely life for all this time.You are his wife not his carer you deserve to feel like a lover so my advice would be to think about this and decide if you are prepared to live without intimacy.I hope one day you feel that special part of life with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Dear Poster
I have great empathy with you and your situation; I would love to help you; but I am afraid there is not enough information available for me to be of much assistance.
I don't know what kept you in this marriage for so long?
What kept you together?
You only had sex 3 times; why, what seems to be the problem? What happened? Have you and your husband discuss this? Is this a non sexual marriage by mutual agreement?
However, I don't agree with "Emilyanswers" (sorry Emily) but don't get a lover; that is not a solution to your problems;
I suggest you should try contact the doctors again; keep trying until you get hold of them; I also suggest you ask them to refer you to a good counselor; you need to get somebody professional to assist you and to help you to decide which way forward.
You need to take stock and decide about your future; you cannot continue like this;
But please no, it will complicate matters if you get involved in a relationship outside the marriage and with your husband condition as it is; NO it is not advisable.
If need be, get a divorce and start a new life; but do things the correct and proper way.
Cheating is never a solution, it will enhance the problem.
I can imagine that life must have been tough on you and not easy and dealing with your husband's condition will not make it any easier; you have my empathy;
Your are in my thoughts; take good care of yourself and try to keep SMILING.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 October 2008):
I am sure your doctors will call you back tomorrow.
I am amazed you stayed with him for 15 years... I am guessing there are no kids in this relationship so why did you stick it out? Could you not have taken a lover? or agreed to an open relationship so you could see other people?
It's sad that he has been diagnosed with bi-polar but that doesn't mean you have to stay with him.
My advice is that if you don't like it with him, then leave! It's never too late for a fresh start.
Good Luck!! xx
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