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writes:Ok, I have an issue with a guy that I like. Pleeease guys help me ! It may sound confusing but that really highlights my own confusionBasically I really like this guy, he's 19 I'm almost 18. He has told me several times he likes me, we met when he was on a break with his "girlfriend". and we have a thing going on at the moment, for the past 2 months now (but knew eachother longer than that). We feel very strongly for eachother and because we are family friends, we have also discussed our future together, but more of in a "joke" way..like "when we get married, let's do this..."We live a distance from each other, and we won't see each other for a while but that's irrelevant and besides the point. Basically, for the past 3 weeks he has been insulting his part time "girlfriend" and how he wanted to break up with her for some time now, he definitely is not in love with her and that he is sick of her etc.So 2 days ago, on facebook, he ended his relationship status with this girl and he randomly mentioned to me "oh i'm just enjoying the single life right now, been single for almost 2 weeks now"HOWEVER, my instincts were telling me he was lying, so (without him knowing i can view her profile) i visited his girlfriends facebook profile and saw that it was her birthday. HE had commented her saying that he cant wait to see her tomorrow and he was wishing her a happy birthday saying he loves his girlfriend and "love from your boyfriend"....I was competely baffled.WHAT are the possible reasons for him to lie to me about being single when he is not?????I mean i would understand if he WAS infact single and he was rubbing in the fact that he is in order to make me feel jealous that other girls can get to him but this i do not understand..pleease help me guys!!thanks!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 October 2008):
I'd let him continue on and then when you have absolute proof that he has been caught in a lie, then you can confront him about it and just tell him to drop dead.
At the moment he could just say that they've agreed to see other people or something rubbish like that.
If you want him to be your boyfriend and not just a bit of fun then take it slow and be very careful.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): I'm not sure if I would actually confront him unless the subject comes up again, you know, like he mentions being single? And then you hit him with the whammy.."Gee, that's funny.." ect..I mean, I don't know the guy, I hate to call someone a liar, but it sure seems that way, doesn't it? I mean, he's lying not only to you, but he's being deceitful to his girlfriend too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your response guys! so could that be the only reason he's lying to me like that? i honestly can't think of anything else...
shall i not confront him about it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): I agree with Emilyanswers. It sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. Don't get caught if he's playing a game..I'd back off for awhile. You really don't want to get caught in the middle of something and its obvious his girlfriend has not idea of what he's thinking/doing. Take it slow and if it comes up again about his single status, you can say "Gee, that's funny..your girlfriend doesn't know about it!" Let him know you aren't stupid!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 October 2008):
Sounds like he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you.
You know he has a girlfriend and you've been flirting and hanging out with him so he knows you are willing to be with him.
However, she is going to know something is going on by the comments on his profile.
I think you should keep your distance from him, keep flirting but tell him you don't want to be a rebound girl and you want to wait a bit so his girlfriend is completely out of the picture after her "break up"
Then keep an eye on her profile and see what he and other people say to her. Don't be with him unless you are sure he's single and available.
Good Luck!! xx
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