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writes:I'm 25 and not interested in men my age or a few years older- I have dated them but it's just not a turn on. I keep falling for men in their 40's. I want a sugar-daddy and I'm so attracted to divorced men with children who have a high powered job (I'm not to worried whether I have my own children or get married).My friends thinks I'm crazy and I deserve someone who hasn't already done the marriage and kids thing but it's not what I want.Am I crazy for thinking this can work?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (19 October 2008):
 There's a difference between being wanting a "sugar daddy" and being attracted to older men.
Do you want to be with an older man because you are ATTRACTED to older men, or is it their money?
I've been VERY attracted to older men in the past, but in terms of money... I don't give a crap if he has two pesos to rub together. I think that it's because I lost my father (he's still alive but not in my life, which is a long story). Out of all the men I've been in love with, only one was younger than I am (another long story).
I was super attracted to one of the teachers at my school, and he's over 50 and so far, this secret is restricted to me and the anonymity of the internet (I'll take it to my grave). He's married, so I had to settle for being his friend. :( But being around him was comforting because he's nearly old enough to be my father (I'm 29) and I was lonely and wanting a father of my own.
If he weren't married I would probably tell him how I feel, at least he would know I don't want his money because you know teachers don't get paid fairly :(
True fulfillment comes from marrying for LOVE and from having a career of your own. You have to have an identity before you can get into a relationship. Have you finished college? Grad school? Look into careers that are of interest and then you will be open to a meaningful relationsip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Well men in their 40's who are divorced with high powered jobs are usually divorced for a reason, they neglected their families. If you enjoy dealing with ex wives and kids who are not happy with you being with their dad, a the man never putting you above his children, but seeing you as a trophy for his financial success, then go for it as that is more the common scenario than not.
Dr Phil says if you marry for money you will earn every cent of it. Get it?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 October 2008):
If you want to date men in their 40's they will be more than thrilled to take you out.
Whether they will see you as some one who is after their money, or someone to dump once you get a bit older so they can go out with another 25 year old is up to them.
It's unusual but if it makes you happy and you aren't just out to use them for their expensive gifts but genuinely find someone who is going to be 60 when you are 40 then go for it!
Good Luck!! xx
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