A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My name is Ishita .i m 20 years old.i am in a relationship from last 3 years.earlier my boyfriend was alcoholic at all . But after his vacation to Bangalore with his brother he has started drinking in access.he takes in 5 beers a day.which leads to his loss in studies.he stays absent minded almost for 5 hrs a day. I tried many times to stop him from drinking but he is stubborn kind.i m really worried about his health and grades.what should I do to save him from this ...?
View related questions:
alcoholic, drunk Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 September 2013):
 YOU cannot save him. In fact, unless he WANTS to stop he won't.
I am married to an active alcoholic. He knows he has a problem and we TALK about it but until an alcoholic or addict is READY to give up their addiction (be it alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling or shopping) there is NOTHING we as partners can do other than let them know we are there for them when they are ready.
IF his behavior is too painful for you to tolerate you should consider leaving him. Perhaps being faced with losing you would be enough to get him to quit.
A
female
reader, cute angel  +, writes (19 September 2013):
 Hey ishitha,First off if you think ur boyfriend has no control over how much he drinks and its affecting his work and studies then he should definitely get help..by help I mean professional help..as a girlfriend you can urge him to stop but if its a habit he would have no control and you will end up hurt!He's an adult if he still can't help himself then you have to decide if ur ready to spend the rest of ur life with alcoholic!Talk to his brother about this and see if the both of you can come with a solution,talk to my boyfriend again explain how this is taking a toll on ur relationship and his health!
...............................
|
