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I met this guy and I like him. Would meeting for coffee be a good idea?

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Question - (14 April 2013) 5 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2013)
A female New Zealand age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi people!

I met this guy on Friday night, he was really nice and we talked/had alot of drinks together. I ended up back at his house for a drink - note we were both drunk but i was sober enough for it not to go any further (i am not like that at all) anyway because we were both really drunk we ended up somehow falling off the couch and I hit my head and he hit his face (i got a small cut in my head) was pretty bad. I knew it was hometime so i went home.

The next day i txted him and asked how he was etc, he asked me if i would like to come hangout again at his place and made a joke about us not drinking so there would be no accidents.

I decided that was not a good idea and said no, but asked would he like to have a coffee sometime? (i do want to see him again, sober to see if we have anything) he said yes let's do that.

I have kept it cool and not texted back as I kinda want him to take charge and dont want to be the one instigating it all. I am now stressing because i do like him and havent heard from him so unsure what to do.

I could text again but am stuck! help? ideas people? Much appreciated!

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A male reader, Fionnlagh New Zealand +, writes (17 April 2013):

Fionnlagh agony auntThe ball is in his court, so to speak, so I agree with the other aunts in that you should be patient and wait for him to contact you. He surely has a life outside of drinking and isn’t putting off a reply intentionally.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (14 April 2013):

Honeypie agony auntWell, it can be that he took the :" I don't want to come to your place, but go for coffee" - as you not being all that into him or he isn't sure what to do now.

Since you only just met Friday I would give him a couple of days to call you. IF he is into you HE will most likely make a move.

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A male reader, bruce lee Nigeria +, writes (14 April 2013):

bruce lee agony auntYeah, sure. Sounds like a sensible way of meeting someone. Just make it clear to him that you don't go all the way on first dates. Always let people know where they stand. Adios

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A female reader, Tangerine Toffee United States +, writes (14 April 2013):

I agree...

Don't initiate contact with him, let him make the call...or text if that's his preference.

I can understand that it's difficult and stressful for you right now. It gets easier...eventually.

But, hang in there.

You really don't want to come off as desperate and needy.

Let him make the move...if he doesn't...move on

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A female reader, cute angel Australia +, writes (14 April 2013):

cute angel agony auntSince you've asked him for coffee already,I think now it's his turn to take charge!

I doubt you need to text again,you may come off as 'needy' or 'trying too hard'..

If he reciprocates then good,if not, 'MOVE on'

Good luck

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