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writes:This is the most craziest question to ever find on a love advice column... Right... I’ve loved Bollywood, bindis, mendhi tattoos, especially the jewellery and fashion and I love the karma sutra and their beliefs since I was a small girl. I try to be like everyone around me... But it doesn’t work... I mix an outfit with the Asian jewellery and makeup. And my family despises that... The reason is because I’m not a member of their herd or whatever... I want to stay the way I am but I want to be valued as myself. But I’m interested in Hindu or Buddhism, between the two. It’s like I belong there. I have sex and I have messed up relationships and have a demented oppressive family like a normal 22 year old... Was I meant to be born in their world? Or was I Indian in my past life? What do I do now and how?I want to flaunt it, but I don’t know what direction to go without looking like I've just ran out the loony bin... If anyone can help me now, I’d really appreciate it if they’ve gone through the same I do....
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 My Jewish-American born son is learning Japanese and is fascinated with the culture etc. I see no problem with it.
I have a friend who was raised in one of the Christian sects but converted to Buddhism years ago. Her children are christian as are her grandchildren... but she's not... everyone respects everyone else.
Find your groove and live with it... if your family is oppressive and prohibits it at 22 consider moving out.
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reader, R1 +, writes (23 March 2013):
 do it with confidence and you can pull off any look you like. I would probably start off subtly though, a few bits here and there then get more into it as time goes on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.In fact it's great that you have interests and a style reflecting your own personality, there's nothing worse than someone that doesn't have any of that at just mimics everyone else, purely because they don't know themselves. There would be nothing to fall in love WITH if you don't have you're own personality and traits. Of course, you are bound to get certain comments and certain people refusing to understand you, you can't everyone so just be content on pleasing yourself, eventually you will find someone that thinks all that is really great. I myself have always been a bit the same way with Chinese culture, in the end I took up learning Chinese and have lived in China for quite a few years now, never looked back. You don't have to go down that kind of route but you could always look into different outlets for this interest of yours? Are there communities online? I notice you're in the UK where there's a huge indian population, maybe you could find some way to get involved in the community in your area, learn the language/learn to cook/volunteer at a project? Good luck!
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 Hi OP,If you're fascinated by another culture I don't see anything wrong in it!My friend who is American as well loves Indian food and their culture and wants to fall in love and marry and Indian woman, lol. It's one of his many fantasies!I don't see how this is a problem! Be who you want to be, OP, I see you're very intrigued by India. You should visit the place someday..I hear its beautiful! Good luck, OP
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